Is she an attention *****?

[Nikar]

Hi all,

As you guys know, I'm an AFC but getting out of it by practicing on a HB8 chick whom I got to know for like several months already.

I'm now fighting a mind war with this HB8 and I'm losing the fight.
The situation goes:

1) When I play hard to get by ignoring her for weeks, not making eye contact with her etc, don't go up or initiate talk with her, she will initiate conversation with me out of the blue.
I then respond back, flirt with her, and then, we *vibe* with each other really well!

Recently, we even walk side-by-side with each other and when it's time to say goodbye, she's very obviously reluctant, because I say bye to her, she says bye back, I turned to go and she's still standing there looking at me, waiting for me to say more things etc, I say bye again and she smiles at me and say bye...


2) The problem is, when our vibe is raging and going on really well (smiling sweetly at each other when we walk pass each other, she treats me to snacks etc), I will try to initiate more convo with her to take the relationship further.

My advancements are very steady and super-slow, inching bit by bit so that it doesn't get too sudden for her, so she doesn't notice.

BUT every time I try to take the whole thing further, she'll ignore me, lose interest in my convo with her, and when I flirt with her etc., she only giggles and don't respond like she usually does.
And when we're in a group, she'll ignore me and talk to other people in the group.


3) So, everytime when I face 2), I will use 1) to counter back, and then I will go on to 2) again, and then the problem occurs and I will use 1) to counter back again, and this has been going on.......

FOR MONTHS and MONTHS.

Is this the pattern of an AW?

Some notes:

She's a tiny bit of a shy girl but has *LOTS* of friends, males and females.
She's shy but kinda nasty and naughty as well.
She's NOT the kinda shy + well-behaved + nice-polite type.

This whole thing is basically a "war" between an AFC and a HB8....and I'm struggling in this battle. I wonder if there's a way to win this "war" without NEXTing her? I should NEXT her only as a last resort.

Thanks!
Nikar

 

[IPalindromeI]

It sounds like she is keeping you around for general ego boosting to me, with her setting and keeping the pace that works best for her. Yes, an AW.

What I would do? I might be too mercenary but this is what I would do:

Find her in a group of people, and noticeably pay more attention to a less attractive girl in the group - preferably one she doesn't like much or is competitive with. Be sure you find a way to actually turn your back partially or all the way on AW while talking to this other girl. If she comes up to you and neither of you is in a group situation then find someone - anyone else and prioritize that conversation over anything she has to say to you.

If she wants to walk with you, or give you stuff - just walk without looking at her and give her only one or two word answers. Smile and be talkative with anyone else you pass - let her know she isn't the important one and in fact just random people walking by are more important to you. If she gives you something, say 'thanks' and put it away without looking at it. If you have the nads to pull it off - just drop whatever it is (snacks?) in the trash as you walk by it, and say ... 'sorry, I'm just not hungry'. Instead of playing the 'bye bye' game, just say 'see you' without looking at her and go on your way.

Basically, you just treat her like she is ugly and not worth your time. I can't think of a more insulting and deserving way to treat a girl like that.

When you get tired of tormenting her and putting her in her place, move on to the next girl. You can't really change a girl like this, and if you were to date her you'd be putting more work than is worth it into keeping her on her toes.

I'll warn you though - she'll probably get pissed at first and then you'll find that she probably won't leave you alone. Every five minutes it will be 'what's wrong?' 'Are we still friends?' Blah, blah, blah...

Just don't cave - as soon as she has you 'back' you'll be no better off than you were before, and no closer to actually dating her. If you can't date her, may as well have fun with it on your way to the next girl.

 

[Ollos]

Well, Nikar, I'm sort of playing the same game too, right now- it's just slightly different from yours. With me, my feelings for her had developed over 18 months. I mean 18 MONTHS!!!!!.
But she only turns around to tell me she is kind of "seeing" someone else. Heartbreaking, init?
Well, with the mind game going on between her and myself right now, I'm in the lead. Cuz,
1. I went up to her and broke our intimacy
2. She has therefore been trying to invlolve herself with me
3. This has given me the edge over (I don't let her in too much). Remember, you need to exercise the greatest deal of self-control if you want to win this mind game.
'Cuz, in these kinds of situations, they try to make you crave them, and then they mess you up!
So, hey Nikar, get back up on top of your game and be in control!!!!!

 

[Nikar]

Thanks a lot for your replies, IPalindromeI and Ollos!

Yeah, I will try out what you guys have said, starting from milder ones and increase the intensity of the harshness if needed.

Seriously, AWs are really hard to handle, I tell you.
She's driving me crazy and I mean really crazy.
If anyone else here has tried handling AWs before, you'll know how insanely hard they are to game.

Ok, maybe a DJ can handle a AW, but I'm an AFC and this is really a challenging battle, though. But I gotta admit I do get a thrill of it.

The hardest part of all these, I believe, if that I tend to go soft easily.
As IPalindromeI says:

I'll warn you though - she'll probably get pissed at first and then you'll find that she probably won't leave you alone. Every five minutes it will be 'what's wrong?' 'Are we still friends?' Blah, blah, blah...

I really need to harden my heart.

Anyway, I'm sick of this **** and will fix her starting tomorrow.

Thanks guys!
Nikar

 

[KontrollerX]

If you are an AFC do not even engage an AW.

You will be destroyed.

Read and learn more here and game normal chicks.

Forget this dead end.

With all the resources available to you and others here why must so many of you go for the nutjobs?

A chick being super hot is not a valid reason when her soul is rotten which her soul most certainly is if she is an AW.