Hey all, I'm new to the DJ community, having been a helpless AFC for years and years. But thanks to sosuave and these postings I've been able to realize what I've been systematically doing wrong all these years. Surprise, I haven't had any problem meeting, conversing with, and taking home beautiful women ever since.
At any rate, I need your help. I've been dating this girl for about a month and a half. She's funny, sexy (not a 9 in my eyes, but a strong 8), intelligent, has a positive attitude on life, politically we are on the same side of the fence.. she's about everything I was wishing for about a year ago, when I was in over my head with divorcing my psycho wife (who I was separated from). My girlfriend's interest level in me couldn't be higher, she's always complimenting me, saying she'd go anywhere with me, she'd like having me over every night. She's going along with me to workout now, always goes to see me play at the open mics I go to, shows up at my work to say hi, gives me flowers (and I haven't given her a single gift!). She's planning things with me, and wants me to go with her to Cali in a few weeks to meet her parents.
This is all a bit overwhelming for me. As good as it should be, I'm finding it hard to believe, but I find myself wondering what my ex-girlfriend is up to!? Could it be that I'm not used to this kind of attention and am trying to "run away" from someone who is this interested in me, or is it that I see AFC behavior in her and that is making me less attracted to her? She has told me that I am her first "steady boyfriend", and she is 23 years old. That also worries me. Am I setting myself up to get dumped here? Do you guys think she even knows what a real relationship is since I'm her "first"? Or is this just a big overreaction? Things have gotten too serious between her and I for me to feel free to just date whoever else I want at the same time.. did I get too involved here too quickly? What should I do? Help!
-John
At any rate, I need your help. I've been dating this girl for about a month and a half. She's funny, sexy (not a 9 in my eyes, but a strong 8), intelligent, has a positive attitude on life, politically we are on the same side of the fence.. she's about everything I was wishing for about a year ago, when I was in over my head with divorcing my psycho wife (who I was separated from). My girlfriend's interest level in me couldn't be higher, she's always complimenting me, saying she'd go anywhere with me, she'd like having me over every night. She's going along with me to workout now, always goes to see me play at the open mics I go to, shows up at my work to say hi, gives me flowers (and I haven't given her a single gift!). She's planning things with me, and wants me to go with her to Cali in a few weeks to meet her parents.
This is all a bit overwhelming for me. As good as it should be, I'm finding it hard to believe, but I find myself wondering what my ex-girlfriend is up to!? Could it be that I'm not used to this kind of attention and am trying to "run away" from someone who is this interested in me, or is it that I see AFC behavior in her and that is making me less attracted to her? She has told me that I am her first "steady boyfriend", and she is 23 years old. That also worries me. Am I setting myself up to get dumped here? Do you guys think she even knows what a real relationship is since I'm her "first"? Or is this just a big overreaction? Things have gotten too serious between her and I for me to feel free to just date whoever else I want at the same time.. did I get too involved here too quickly? What should I do? Help!
-John
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