"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is she a flake? Need some input

Parachute

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(This is a different girl from my other thread)
I'm back at home from school, and there's a girl from my hs i've been chattin up for the past month. She's a year younger than me, but from teh start she seemed really interested. She told me she was really attracted to me, etc. But there was a red flag early on. One of my buddies told me she was chatting with one of his friends, and told me just to warn me, so i called her on it. I told her the situation and asked if she was talking to multiple guys, and she reassured me she wasn't and that other guys have tried asking her out, but she doesn't respond or isn't interested, but it's not like that with me because she's actually really interested and thinks I'm hot. Another thing that bothered me is that the two times i asked to see her, she was busy, but i dismissed this until recently.

The week after we first started talking she went on vacation for 10 days, we talked, it was cool. She told me I could have her whatever way I wanted her, and that she wanted me to **** her, and that she gets so horny for me because I'm the kind of guy who takes control. She even sent me a pic of her in her lingerie. Then she got back, and went to the mountains with her friend and didn't text me at all when she was there, and this kind of annoyed me. So then we go a couple days without talking, and i text her asking when she'll be back and i get nothing back, and then i wait 2 more days and tell her: look, It would have been cool hanging out with you, but I don't feel like waiting around for you to decide you want to hang out with me. and then she finally responds and says she likes me a lot and doesn't want me to do that because it's a rash decision and that shell see me. So I ask when, and she says monday or tuesday because she's going to her cousin's house and is packing right now, and I told her if she breaks plans again, we'll be done, and she said that she pinky promises and that she'll make sure we have a lot of fun ;)

This girl is hot, and she seems like she wants me, but she's been kind of flaky, and that kidn of **** pisses me off. What do yall think.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She's not your gf, far from it, she can talk to as many guys as she likes, just like you can talk to all the girls.

You're showing a weakness by telling her you want to hang out but won't wait for her, and if she breaks plans again you threaten it's over, it'll come across as a bit needy to her. If she likes you, she'll make an effort to keep plans. simple as that. If not, ignore her. She'll either be done with you, or apologize and make it up.
 

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ok man, I just got flaked (but I believe it was legit, she's "not feeling well" as in "sick"), she offered to do something next week. I just said, "darn, ok." Then she said something, then I said that I can now only be with her a short window of time next week, like late night Friday (I didn't say Why which is because I work all the time). So her opportunity to get with me will keep narrowing with every flake. Next flake is I can only see you for a few seconds, tell me why I should meetup with you just for a minute. The time frame will become a nanosecond, then I explain to her how she will never get to go out with me whatever, unless she goes down a wormhole into another dimension, the 4th dimension where time stands next to time. Click.

I'm scrambling right now, have a few last minute plates I am trying to open up for tonight last minute, one I've already fvcked who's moving into a new apartment, so she may be too tired. Oh well, I was looking forward to this one who just flaked me about an hour ago. I had a Feeling that it was coming, because she'd been scarce past couple of days, whereas earlier in the week she was all gung-hoe to do something tonight.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Parachute said:
One of my buddies told me she was chatting with one of his friends, and told me just to warn me, so i called her on it. I told her the situation and asked if she was talking to multiple guys, and she reassured me she wasn't and that other guys have tried asking her out, but she doesn't respond or isn't interested, but it's not like that with me because she's actually really interested and thinks I'm hot.
Come on, man. Are you f**king this girl? Have you been on a date with her?

Why shouldn't she talk to other dudes? Why shouldn't you talk to other girls? Right now you're just two kids "talking".

So I ask when, and she says monday or tuesday because she's going to her cousin's house and is packing right now, and I told her if she breaks plans again, we'll be done, and she said that she pinky promises and that she'll make sure we have a lot of fun ;)

This girl is hot, and she seems like she wants me, but she's been kind of flaky, and that kidn of **** pisses me off. What do yall think.
Sounds like she's in the driver's seat here. Asking her if she's talking to other guys certainly doesn't help your status.

Anyway, yes it sounds like she's flaking. If a girl wants you, she'll have you. All you can do now is wait and see. But the more desperate you act, the worse things get. Good luck with that.
 

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Bad week for me all around. Like pullin teeth. These women are giving me bullsh!t excuse after bullsh!t excuse. I'm napalming them, their numbers, emails, to the trash. I don't like being fvcked with. Give me a Fvcking yea or nay. Don't lead my fvcking as5 on! These b!tches are better at being vague than we are guys. They read the books, they know how to play. They can be the most dog-faced dumpy-bodied chicks (what I am resorting to now) and they STILL try to make you feel littler. I mean, dudes are STILL lighting up their phones, and they can (or try to) make you squirm all they want. Seriously, even the 4s and the 5s guys. This is bullsh!t. I'm goodlooking with my sh!t together, and have banged many, but I can't get a fvcking date. Sure, I have my quirks but my peculiarities are usually a plus, but at the moment, apparently, my odd nature at times has become a utility to try to make me feel bad about myself. As of tonight, I can't even get the fvckin 4s guys. Fvck.
 
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