Is referring to you by name an IOI?

[tsmith2334]

Before you write this off as silly, just know that I've heard this for years now and from several sources.

Anyway, here's my question... would statements like:

"Hey Tom"
"Thanks Tom"
"How are you, Tom?"
"Nice meeting you, Tom..."

be indicators of interest as opposed to:

"Hey"
"Thanks"
"How are you?"
"Nice to meet you"

I've honestly heard when she inserts your name into the statement it can be an IOI. Is this true?

 

[DonGorgon]

YES! Especially if she gives you a nick name... but this is not set in stone..LOL

 

[tsmith2334]

*sigh* yer the general rule of thumb is "kinz" added to the end does NOT equal "in"

Huh?

 

[JDA70]

Good question. I vote yes.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Depends on context. How often does she say your name?

Every other sentence? Or when you meet, then part.

 

[DonutMan]

I think this is a personality thing. I try to use peoples names so I don't forget them, especially when I first meet someone new. I wouldn't say it is an IOI...

 

[Bonafide]

Ive been pondering this as well...good question but i'm not sure myself. Some people are just like that

 

[tsmith2334]

Depends on context. How often does she say your name?

Every other sentence? Or when you meet, then part.

The woman in mind usually says it when we meet and part. Usually in the context of the examples I provided.

She shows a lot of other IOIs, which leads me to believe this might be one as well.

 

[02hero]

I would say yes, it's an IOI

 

[jdon23]

There are better IOI's out there.

When it doubt, just try some kino and see how she reacts.

 

[2.0]

I would say it's an IOC, Indicator of Class... but not necessarily an IOI. She might just refer to everyone by name.

 

[Alle_Gory]

The woman in mind usually says it when we meet and part.

This is not an IOI. This is her saying your name, probably repeating it so she doesn't forget.

 

[tsmith2334]

This is not an IOI. This is her saying your name, probably repeating it so she doesn't forget.

Well, like I said, it all depends. I've known for two months, so I don't her think remembering my name is an issue at this point.

The best examples I can give you of her doing it are:

"Hey Tom"
"Thanks Tom"
"How are you, Tom?"
"You too, Tom"

The reason why I think it's an IOI is because she is ALWAYS smiling at me and looking me in the eyes. I've also seen kino (initiated by her), head tilting and hair playing.

 

[Alle_Gory]

The reason why I think it's an IOI is because she is ALWAYS smiling at me and looking me in the eyes. I've also seen kino (initiated by her), head tilting and hair playing.

THIS is the most important information. Behaviour.

Deffinite IOI. :yes:

Good luck buddy.

 

[Dannyrt34]

The reason why I think it's an IOI is because she is ALWAYS smiling at me and looking me in the eyes. I've also seen kino (initiated by her), head tilting and hair playing.

THAT's the real IOI then.

 

[tsmith2334]

THIS is the most important information. Behaviour.

Deffinite IOI. :yes:

Good luck buddy.

Thanks my friend, I appreciate it a lot.

I knew I was getting some clear IOIs, I just thought addressing me by name could be the icing on the cake.

I've heard if you meet someone and they repeat your name upon saying goodbye, it means they enjoyed meeting you. In other words, they subconsciously think you are worth remembering.

 

[SinJester]

It's funny I was talking to one of my girl friends and she said about her kind of boyfriend at the time "I hate it how he always says my name. It makes it seem impersonal". I replied "what? that's weird. Normally people drop names when they are trying to gain rapport".

Now I'm definately not saying don't drop names based off what one girl thinks, but because of my background (on here etc) I automatically assumed that it was an IOI. However the whole act of looking for IOIs can screw you up. Rather that looking you should be acting. The only IOI you can rely on is when you esculate and she doesn't reject. If you ask her out and she says yes, THATS an IOI. If you go to kiss her and she kisses you back then THATS an IOI.

I'm interested in this stuff but you simply can't be analysing if she's twirling her hair and hold a good, fun conversation. Not to say that that the thread doesn't have a valid question. I think we should rely more on what feel rather than what we come up with logically. Do you feel that's she's interested? Much better than counting IOIs.

/rant

 

[tsmith2334]

^ Great advice! It not only applies to this thread but interactions in general. I find that being over-analytical is a recipe for disaster.

A lot of women unintentionally give off IOIs even though they aren't interested, so you always need to look out for false alarms.

Do you feel that's she's interested? Much better than counting IOIs.

Truthfully, yes. When I met her I felt a good vibe. Upon re-introducing myself a few months later, she seemed to remember me fondly (she started using kino!).

Since then I've noticed many IOIs... body language, constant smiling and eye contact, even the way she speaks and how she conducts herself. My hunch is she would definitely go on a date with me.

 

[SharinganUser]

IOI's are good to know about and what to look for, but you interpret them as permission to move ahead. If you are attracted to her, then her not rejecting your advances IS the permission to go for it.

Some guys are always waiting around for IOI's (aka opportunities) instead of creating them in women.

If you are attracted to her, then JUST GO FOR IT!!


What was the question again??

 

[IKO69]

Referring to you by your name can be. I know when I usaully meet a girl I like for the first time I try calling her by name a lot.