"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is pleasure the point of life?

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It seems that everything we do is for our personal pleasure. Even supposedly "unselfish" acts such as donating to charity or helping our neighbours is for pleasure - it makes us feel better.

Personally, I'm pretty sick of all those philosophies and ideals floating around. Communism, fascism, Descartes, Christianity. I'm starting to see a better world if everyone would just life their lives without worrying about all this sh*t, and try to help themselves for a change!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Oh oh... looks like another Republican has raised it's head...

There is hope! I, too, was once as you! But you must find your own way out of the rugged individualist mire.

Good luck!
 

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w00t

Dude... just live life! Stop worrying about that bullsh!t;)


Laterz...
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
It seems that everything we do is for our personal pleasure. Even supposedly "unselfish" acts such as donating to charity or helping our neighbours is for pleasure - it makes us feel better.

Personally, I'm pretty sick of all those philosophies and ideals floating around. Communism, fascism, Descartes, Christianity. I'm starting to see a better world if everyone would just life their lives without worrying about all this sh*t, and try to help themselves for a change!
It doesn't matter what you are and what you believe, if you arn't a good person ... you will only feel as much mysery as you cause yourself and others.
 

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That which you are stems from that which you do...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by CableLight
That which you are stems from that which you do...
wow. just wow.

who's that from?
 

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I don't know, I get seriously ****ed over everytime I do the right thing, and I keep doing it. Its not pleasure, but honor.
 

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The selfish drive is the strongest drive we have I think.

Truely Altruistic people have something really special going for them, cause the ID's driviing me to go feel good at any cost whatsoever to anyone.
 

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Originally posted by Vincent
wow. just wow.

who's that from?
<shrug> Just made it up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
the point of life = work hard and make a lot of money and save while you're young so you can retire young and live well when you're old.
I hope your joking.
 

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Originally posted by baz
I hope your joking.
no, unless you are looking forward to working till you're very old and struggling to survive on short income when you get old.

better to work hard when you're young since you have energy and health, save a lot of money and retire young.
 

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Originally posted by baz
I hope your joking.
Heaven forbid somebody have a totally practical and utilitarian attitude towards life. Why, if everyone was that shallow, why, why...

well, probably alot more would get done. Horrors of horrors!:D :rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by Sazuki
I think the roman empire fell partly/mostly because it become very hedonistic.
Yeah, the Roman Empire, which was notorious for the orgies of Caligula at its height, and the piety of its Christian Emperors at its twilight, fell because of hedonism. :rolleyes:

It was economic, political problems, combined with population pressures from the Germanic tribes. Besides, the urbanized (and therefore, likely more hedonistic) parts of the Empire lasted another millenia.
 

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Thought I'd drop in for a second, realized it's been a while. I was going to comment on the ST8OR or whatver his names thread was until I realized it was a year old, might have been intresting, but chnces are I already did respond to it a while back....

I'm starting to see a better world if everyone would just life their lives without worrying about all this sh*t, and try to help themselves for a change!
Not sure what your going against, the start talked about ditching philosophies, but then you just threw out a philosophy everyone should live instead[tricky bastard]. If they try to help themselves it would have to be for pain I assume[which isn't normally considered help], as they wouldn't be allowed to do anything to make themselves happy or they would be in the pursuit of pleasure.

Maybe you would be satisfied with everyone killing themselves. If everyone is dead there would be no problems?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Sazuki
But does that prove that hedonism is the point of life?

And your probably right about the demise of their empire I dont know much about romans, my example wasn't a good one.
lol, its my field of interest, I just couldn't resist an opportunity to show off. :D
 
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