"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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is picking up quality girls on the dance floor (with no previous chat etc) a nono?

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unless ofcourse you really can dance.

im finding that the hot ones turn their back on you when you start dancing with them in clubs. Am i doing something wrong or is this just the case?

Basically what im asking is, with hot girls in clubs, do you need to have already chatted to them at the bar or something before you start dancing?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Im lucky in this area in that i'm naturally a really good dancer. Firstly treat ALL girls on the dancefloor the same. Hot girls are in it just as much as the ugly ones. If there's a vibe from a girl your near, go in for the grind.
 

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I have found that if the club is dark you may get her number but you will have to start fro zero later on when you call her since she will not be sure of ur looks and she gave her number to 20 other men that night... Clubs are good for meeting skanks and hos only good for an F
 

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TheGameMaster said:
unless ofcourse you really can dance.

im finding that the hot ones turn their back on you when you start dancing with them in clubs. Am i doing something wrong or is this just the case?

Basically what im asking is, with hot girls in clubs, do you need to have already chatted to them at the bar or something before you start dancing?
The hot girls are looking for equally hotter guys. U'll need to be cleverer in your aproach unless ur equally good-looking.
 

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This is where nonverbal game comes in.

If you're macking on the dance floor, you've lost your ability to speak because of the music (unless you're whispering in her ear, but you can't run the cube or something). On the other hand, you gain the ability to kino a lot better.

Do push-pull, run the dicarlo ladder, tease her body with your hands. When you're grinding front to front, put your leg in between hers and prop your thigh up to stimulate her vag.

Really, you just want to pump her buying temperature until she's ready for a makeout. Make out on dance floor, isolate her to a couch somewhere ("let's get fresh air/sit down and talk/etc.") and then just build comfort while keeping it sexual. You want to keep ASD low, so make her feel like your a cool guy.

One mistake I've made is lowering the kino just because you're not dancing anymore. If she made out with you, let you grab her ass, and/or let your grab her jugs on the dance floor, keep up the kino intensity, don't go back to touching her arm and sh!t. After more making out/fluff, extract. Make it direct, she knows you want to bang and she does too, because you turned her on. "Let's go back to my place/your place/get out of here." Don't ask her to see your fish collection, I think direct is the way to go in that situation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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*LAUGHS EVIL* touche my friend, I love it when that **** kicks in, basically yo, it's yerr responsibility don't be a poon, just yesterday I was chillin at the library and I ended up taking a girl to her car when hung out a bit and then made out haha, that's just like "go go go" I had seen her around in school and that but never really even talked to her or conversated blah blah that's just a small example compared to flabbergasped I love the concept of kino in your post, purely essential. Beautiful stuff.
Jorge

Flabbergasped? said:
This is where nonverbal game comes in.

If you're macking on the dance floor, you've lost your ability to speak because of the music (unless you're whispering in her ear, but you can't run the cube or something). On the other hand, you gain the ability to kino a lot better.

Do push-pull, run the dicarlo ladder, tease her body with your hands. When you're grinding front to front, put your leg in between hers and prop your thigh up to stimulate her vag.

Really, you just want to pump her buying temperature until she's ready for a makeout. Make out on dance floor, isolate her to a couch somewhere ("let's get fresh air/sit down and talk/etc.") and then just build comfort while keeping it sexual. You want to keep ASD low, so make her feel like your a cool guy.

One mistake I've made is lowering the kino just because you're not dancing anymore. If she made out with you, let you grab her ass, and/or let your grab her jugs on the dance floor, keep up the kino intensity, don't go back to touching her arm and sh!t. After more making out/fluff, extract. Make it direct, she knows you want to bang and she does too, because you turned her on. "Let's go back to my place/your place/get out of here." Don't ask her to see your fish collection, I think direct is the way to go in that situation.
 

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I say if you can't dance, still dance...

If you don't want to dance, just walk up to her and chat her as if it isn't a dancefloor, she'll stop and start chatting you right on the dancefloor, even if she was dancing crazy a few seconds ago...all it takes is that belief and frame control.
 

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thanks for that flabbergasped, massive help.

the stage i struggle with is getting the girl to grind with me in the first place

what's the process?! im in good shape and ok looking...alright if theyre all after supermodels then id be ****ed but other than that, there must be something else holding me back so how do you approach girls on the dancefloor?
 
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TheGameMaster said:
thanks for that flabbergasped, massive help.

the stage i struggle with is getting the girl to grind with me in the first place

what's the process?! im in good shape and ok looking...alright if theyre all after supermodels then id be ****ed but other than that, there must be something else holding me back so how do you approach girls on the dancefloor?
You take responsibility because you're the man and you do it. Mind you, this is coming from a guy who's half horse centaur like. hehe ;)
 

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TheGameMaster said:
thanks for that flabbergasped, massive help.

the stage i struggle with is getting the girl to grind with me in the first place

what's the process?! im in good shape and ok looking...alright if theyre all after supermodels then id be ****ed but other than that, there must be something else holding me back so how do you approach girls on the dancefloor?
OFFER VALUE

The actual thought of just grinding on chicks is taking value...give them an experience on the dancefloor, as I say self-express on the dancefloor and go crazy. If your having fun girls will gravitate towards you and when your actually dancing with chicks others see that you don't want anything and that your offering value so they want to be apart of it...

When I do my dancefloor stuff which is INSANE...I look for a low traffic area purposely and grab chicks pulling them in my area, do it over and over and you have a MEGA PARTY...The goal is give them an experience...

I've had chicks running saying "they love me" and this is because I'm all about just giving them a wide range of touch and sensations...

The ironic thing is I BARELY GRIND, maybe 10% of it is grinding...the biggest thing is to LEAD don't follow... (This is just a GUIDELINE)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My friend says the best time to go to the club is at the end of the month when chicks in general are horny.
 
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