"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is not growing out facial hair a dealbreaker for me?

Lostsoul85

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As odd as this may sound i have an ocd about shaving before i go to bed.Facial hair really bothers and annoys me and at times can't sleep well at night.Anyways with my facial structure,will not growing out any facial hair effect my chances with women?If my inner game is solid can i do well just with the way i look now without facial hair?

http://s1356.photobucket.com/user/caliboy85/media/image_zps1c74538e.jpg.html?sort=2&o=1

*Yes i know lifting weights will suit me but i have a medical condition that prevents me from lifting heavy
*This is not a rate me thread i have already done that awhile back on here
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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apprenticedj

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So are you asking if being clean shaven will hurt your chances with the ladies? If that's your question then the answer is no. Many women prefer clean shaven men, it looks more polished and smooth to them. But on the other hand some women love scruff, beards, goatees, mustaches etc. Different strokes for different folks but being clean shaven isn't vagina repellant by any means. I personally think you look just fine in your picture, your looks shouldn't stop you from getting chicks at all.
 

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the only other thing to do with a clean shaven head is to have a big full beard and im not too sure if you could pull that one off. but as said above not a pvssy repellant. you need to own your look man and figure out what you want. I have chicks that love my beard and always play with it, then I know chicks that wouldn't ever think about even kissing me with my face warmer on.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sozzz

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Whose idea was it to tell yall on here to shave heads and sh.t?
Not to you OP, but wherever i go now, 1 out of 3 guys have their heads shaved.
The hell is going on? I understand all of us want to improve ourselves but dont just take any advice.
To OP, what i would do is grow my hair out and gel it to the style that most suit you. Get rid of the shave head, just a thought
Oh, another thing, shave w.e but not head. It all comes down what makes you comfortable.
 

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Its severe male pattern baldness i don't really have a choice but to shave it off.
 

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On a related note about hair. I've been seeing a new lady friend recently. I have also been growing out my pubes for about three months now. Do I have to shave them before I attempt anything sexual with her? I kinda enjoy having a bush. I know that the media puts a lot of emphasis on the girl being shaven but what is considered appropriate for a guy as far as hair down under goes?
 

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DJ Bax said:
On a related note about hair. I've been seeing a new lady friend recently. I have also been growing out my pubes for about three months now. Do I have to shave them before I attempt anything sexual with her? I kinda enjoy having a bush. I know that the media puts a lot of emphasis on the girl being shaven but what is considered appropriate for a guy as far as hair down under goes?
whatever the hell you are comfortable with man. who gives a **** she is with you for the thick pube in the middle not the rest of them. but if you really want some advice never go clean shaven man... makes any man look like a mutant 12 year old, you are a man you are supposed to have hair. but in saying that have some style and keep it neat lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You're not bad-looking, but I personally think you could use some facial hair. Not many guys can pull off the bald head/clean shaven face combo. Myself included. :(
 

sozzz

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Lostsoul85 said:
Its severe male pattern baldness i don't really have a choice but to shave it off.
Alright, in that case. Work with what you have man. Get rid of that purple shirt and replace it with a white shirt.

Don't wear purple, pink or any colors that make you feminine. You seem like a nice guy, but nice+feminine is not a good combination. Some girls do like that though.

If you have girls that are friends, go out together and take them to the clothing stores you like and ask them what looks good on you. Listen to what each has to say then combine all the good and throw out all the bad and go with the style you see fit. Before you say that's gay, it's not. You're trying to look good not sharing a bed with another guy. If anyone says otherwise, ignore and keep working on yourself.

Long story short, I take my girl out and we would go shopping together, and she would tell me what looks good on me. At first, I was a little skeptical but gave it a shot. Now, girls sizing me up and down whenever I'm out with my guy friends.

CLIFF NOTES:
-Get rid of girly color clothes
-Get girls that are friends and ask them what look good on you
-Buff up(if nothing else would, this is the last resort)

I'm small/skinny as hell but the way I dress and act around people that make girls check me out and guys want to be friends with me. That's all I can give you man. You're decent looking so work on other things. Good luck.
 

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Just hone your look to make YOU HAPPY. Not a woman. If you are happy with how you look then the world will be too.

No excuses for not working out. Can't lift heavy? Then lift light or do SOMETHING. No excuses.

NO EXCUSES.

NO MOTHER****ING EXCUSES.

All this talk, are my looks right, do I have A or do I have B whats the best thing to do for C.

Doesn't ****ing matter what advice you get if you do not act on it fully.


TL;DR. No excuses, take action.
 

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DJ Bax said:
On a related note about hair. I've been seeing a new lady friend recently. I have also been growing out my pubes for about three months now. Do I have to shave them before I attempt anything sexual with her? I kinda enjoy having a bush. I know that the media puts a lot of emphasis on the girl being shaven but what is considered appropriate for a guy as far as hair down under goes?
Fvck that nonsense. I find the fact that dudes feel that they need to shave for women laughable. Dont even trim that sh!t. Make her floss when she goes down on you :yes:.

OP this the 50th post youve made questioning your looks. Stop it. Obsessing over your looks isn't going to solve anything. Take comfort in the fact that you're at least average, no girl will cringe in disgust when you talk to her.
 

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Whether you think you look good or not, better to be "ugly" and act confident rather than being "ugly" and unconfident, which only confirms you're a loser.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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