Is non committed relationships the best option for someone who lives at home

[Lostsoul85]

I just moved to Atlanta about 6 months ago the last couple of days I finally got the balls to go out to the mall and talk to women.
I just started with basic stuff like asking for the time and then ejecting and then practicing forcing myself to ask a woman who is with her boyfriend for the time while ignoring the boyfriend.Eventually I asked for opinions on bars to visit and Christmas present to buy.Although,if my verbal/flirting game was better I could have gotten some numbers because some of the women where receptive but about a minute into the conversation I ran out of things to say..

Anyways here's the logistics
I live with my parents(hope to move out when I am somewhat financially stable)
I don't have a lot of money(still)

My thought process was something like this i am unemployed,living with my parents,and my social skills are about average so I will wait till I am independent and then I will feel less like a loser and therefore I can start approaching women.

Is this a wrong mindset to have?Maybe this is a distorted way to look at things?


My focus is on day game as far as pickup....

I think for someone who is in my boat the best thing to do is go for same day lays and just ask them to hang out at there place

 

[Starfvcks 64]

You shouldn't wait. There is no point to waiting, especially since you should never be done pursuing a better life.
You don't need a "committed" relationship, you don't even need a relationship in general.

You learn by experience and ****ing up. Being unemployed and living with your parents really isn't even an obstacle when it comes to getting laid, at least it wasn't for me.

There are 1000000 places to fvck: cars, backyards, etcs.
Find a girl who has her own place, or her own room at least.
Don't date girls who live at home. Problem solved.

I've dated girls for months without ever wanting to come to my place.
I've even lied about my living situation, and it wasn't an issue.

Don't lie though. You don't need to.

 

[skinnyguy]

You are right. You should get your act together before pursuing women.

This is NOT because it's a barrier to getting women. The previous poster showed you can get women while unemployed. The reason is that you should spend 100% of your energy to get your career on track. Women aren't that important if you're broke.

 

[Starfvcks 64]

The reason is that you should spend 100% of your energy to get your career on track.

Yea, can't argue with this.

But at the same time, I understand the struggle to find a job and all that.
It's one thing to focus on your career, another thing to not even have a career or job to focus on.

You should be out pursuing the betterment of your life, period.
I think finding "success" with girls can be a very positive thing, and definitely a good boost to confidence.
You can meet girls everywhere, why not at least get some practice in?

If it's getting in the way of your progression, you lose.
On the flip side, you can use girls (and everyone) to lead you to career opportunities. I got one of my jobs through a girl who was showing me interest.

Girls are out making connections with people to advance their position in life. They are masters at using people to get ahead. There is something to learn from that.

 

[skinnyguy]

What interests you? Aside from women of course

 

[Starfvcks 64]

What interests you? Aside from women of course

Are you asking me?

If so, that's a question I like to ignore.

But being honest, I am really interested in social dynamics.
Not just in sexual relationships, but all relationships. Handwriting analysis, micro expressions, etc. I'm pro at it.
I spend too much time thinking about that stuff, for a lot of reasons. I can't go one single day without thinking about it.

I love psychology theory and philosophy.
I love learning new things. I love doing things i'm told not to do, and figuring out how to benefit from things that are supposed to restrain me.

I have a list of personal goals, and i'm interested in pursuing them.

I love film, but to be honest, all I care about these days is just getting money. When someone asks me what I'm interested in, it's a weird question to me. I read a lot, watch a lot of movies/music etc, but ALL I care about is making money and getting myself in a position where I have FULL control over my life.

If you weren't asking me, then just forget all I just said.