Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You must be s.hitting me.Yorkshire Alpha said:.
Jose Mourinho, if the personification of Alpha Male. .
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Does anyone on here know, David DeAngelo, Mystery, and, Tyler Durden intimately, not many I wouldn't think, yet they are always being written about.Microphone Fiend said:please stop analzying fictional characters or celebrities that you do not know intimately.
I would say ou hit the nail on the head, simply if you have that much drive to win a sport, you clearly want to dominate over other men, alteast.Quiksilver said:I would say he is.
There are many things that can make someone an "alpha".
Being the #1 in the world at your sport is definitely one of them.
You can't get there(and stay there for like 2 years) without extreme self-confidence and all that other b.ullshi.t.
The people you mentioned in the former actually contribute to my sosuave life. The latter celebrities do not contribute to my life on sosuave so posts about them tend to be by some new guy on how alpha they were in their last role. The problem is not me envying them, but guys like you idolizing them. Tell me what this thread will prove once it has fallen to the bottom of the forum? That some guy we will never meet is an alphamale? Your question is do you think he gets a lot of girls...If I say yes or no, then what? Read the Enquirer if you are that into the guy. You dont want sosuave you want a good reason for having his poster on your wall. Stop looking at people you will never meet to determine what an alpha male is and define it yourself. I can search the forum and find 100 better threads about alpha males that actually discuss real issues, not what tennis player you have a man-crush on.KoalaKing said:Does anyone on here know, David DeAngelo, Mystery, and, Tyler Durden intimately, not many I wouldn't think, yet they are always being written about.
Are you envious of guys like, Roger Federer, Rod Stewart, and, Tom Cruise, because they have got to a status of which you cannot attain, they are all real people, they were at birth helpless babies, somehow they took the Bull by the horns, and made themselves into worldwide success stories, I tend to think that you are jealous of them.![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ur kidding right? He was a genetic freak loaded with steroids and issues galore. Read up on him, that's not confidence but arrogance riddled with serious psychological & hormonal imbalances.IamtheAlphamale said:Arnold Schwartzinagger (sp?) and one other guy are trhe only ones I've ever seen.
In all honesty I would much rather be doing what, Roger Federer, Rod Stewart, and, Tom Cruise, are doing than what, David DeAngelo, Mystery, Tyler Durden, You, and, Myself, are doing.Microphone Fiend said:The people you mentioned in the former actually contribute to my sosuave life. The latter celebrities do not contribute to my life on sosuave so posts about them tend to be by some new guy on how alpha they were in their last role. The problem is not me envying them, but guys like you idolizing them. Tell me what this thread will prove once it has fallen to the bottom of the forum? That some guy we will never meet is an alphamale? Your question is do you think he gets a lot of girls...If I say yes or no, then what? Read the Enquirer if you are that into the guy. You dont want sosuave you want a good reason for having his poster on your wall. Stop looking at people you will never meet to determine what an alpha male is and define it yourself. I can search the forum and find 100 better threads about alpha males that actually discuss real issues, not what tennis player you have a man-crush on.
smh @ calling me jealous. & "I tend to think you might be jealous"...stop trying to sound smart please
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I think the better question is...who cares?KoalaKing said:Is the humble quietly spoken nice guy Tennis Champion Roger Federer an AlphaMale, given that he is extremely successful, wealthy, and known of throughout the World, do you think many hot babes would desire to be with him.
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It doesn't. But having the drive to become a top tennis player, beating hundreds of other opponents, training 15 hours a day, and maintaining the motivation to play in extreme weather (I've seen tennis games played in temperates that would make a normal person faint)...MVPlaya said:How does hitting a ball with a racket make you alpha?
i think that the celebrities cannot. If you go out with them and ask them how they get girls, they dont know. A PUA Guru can tell you the logic behind the PUA and point out things that the celebrity doesnt even know he does. Anyones most celebrity relationships seem to start from extremely good looks and enormous social proof like the Enquirer or being on Oprah or winning a Tennis Title.KoalaKing said:In all honesty I would much rather be doing what, Roger Federer, Rod Stewart, and, Tom Cruise, are doing than what, David DeAngelo, Mystery, Tyler Durden, You, and, Myself, are doing.
I think these Celebrities can teach you alot more than these PUA Gurus and the other posters on this site can.
The reason why I say this is because they are not actually looking to impress the hot babes who adore them, their main focus in life is on other things and not on attracting gorgeous woman, and because they are successful at their pursuits the hottest babes are obsessed by them.
Anyway where are all of these fantastic posts that you claim have been written on the site, I can't find many myself.![]()