Is needing 1% too much?

[bigneil]

We all know that if a man is needy is repulses women, but these days I find myself seriously questioning whether it is possible for a man to need anything from a woman for even a few moments and not push her away.

It seems that women have become so selfish that they are confusing neediness with basic human needs. This may be what happens when they have 5 guys each so they just keep switching to the happiest one at the moment.

As a contractor who changes jobs a lot, I've found that women sense career changes the same way they sense rejection and success with other women. You can have 4 dates lined up, then find out your job is relocating you, and without saying a word to any of them they will all cancel. In other words, if you are dealing with any stress in your life, even if you are trying to keep it to yourself, they still sense it and instead of helping you with it they run. The opposite is also true, when you move to a new city with a great new job, women flock to you.

Do you think it was always this way and is it healthy for men to require 100% independence from women? Don't we eventually need them to be good wives, mothers and friends?

 

[Mike32ct]

We all have a certain amount of "leakage" where our stresses, fears, and insecurities leak out through our body language, facial expessions, voice tone, and every other way you can think of. Unfortunately, women pick up on this.
You can't stop it 100%. It's part of being human.

All we can do is try to tackle our stresses one at a time. But we can never get all of them resolved at once because new ones keep appearing. It's like that game where the gophers keep popping up and you keep hitting them back down with the rubber hammer.

Off topic, the "leakage" thing is also the reason why picking up UGs or "dumpster diving" doesn't work. Huge amounts of insecurity, desperation, and lack of GENUINE interest in the girl will leak out and she will get really turned off. (I know the OP doesn't do this. I'm just mentioning it for the purposes of discussion.)

 

[Mike32ct]

Back to the OPs question, I don't think women were always this strict about a guy being nearly bulletproof from stress. They never liked a guy who cries, but I would think they were more forgiving in the past.

 

[Handsfull]

In society today, it is the mans job to take care of everything. His problems, her problems, their problems together, etc. Show no emotion. Stay calm, cool and collected, NO MATTER WHAT. You're dad just died? Suck it up. It's your job to be there for them, not the other way around.

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

Yeah it's like it's okay for a woman to need or want a boyfriend for validation, to feel better about herself, complete her life, etc. But not okay for a man, it's like we men are not supposed to want companionship, c'mon, we men are humans too as in we have emotions, we have feelings, we are not robots, androids, cybords, etc.