"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is my plan for having a girlfriend stupid?

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So imagine his attitude. He hasnt been laid in 18 months due to his unearned pretentiousness and snobbiness. Women already think men who havent been laid look "creepy".

This is a man who turns down his nose and disgust at women on the regular cause they might a attractive hard working woman with one child. Or it might be an extremely well built lady who happens to be a couple years older than him.

He calls these garbage in utter contempt. Women who want to be kind to him.

Hes chasing networked and socialized "hot babes" who dont veer off from the politics of their group.

Imagine the perfectionist snobbish stench that must emenate from him, and the frustrations and pain of 18 months sexless on top of it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So imagine his attitude. He hasnt been laid in 18 months due to his unearned pretentiousness and snobbiness. Women already think men who havent been laid look "creepy".

This is a man who turns down his nose and disgust at women on the regular cause they might a attractive hard working woman with one child. Or it might be an extremely well built lady who happens to be a couple years older than him.

He calls these garbage in utter contempt. Women who want to be kind to him.

Hes chasing networked and socialized "hot babes" who dont veer off from the politics of their group.

Imagine the perfectionist snobbish stench that must emenate from him, and the frustrations and pain of 18 months sexless on top of it.
woman with child should never be dated, don't matter what you belive, you can have your fun if is a easy lay, nothing else, only think I can think dating a woman with a child would be okish is if you have yours too, if not move on, waste of time.

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I didn't ask if you have a fantastic life, I said you to live your life, saying you do that all just for doing it is empty, bring nothing to you, and you know that hence the desperate act, you are not happy with yourself and belive then with a woman you will be happy and with a purpose, that is a dangerous thing for you, no a woman will not make you happy, will jsut add more trouble and annoyance in your life, woman yes get happier with a guy becasue she will get protection, attencion, and someone crazy enough to deal with her, woman can't be alone
 

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woman with child should never be dated, don't matter what you belive, you can have your fun if is a easy lay, nothing else, only think I can think dating a woman with a child would be okish is if you have yours too, if not move on, waste of time.

@bigdave17

I didn't ask if you have a fantastic life, I said you to live your life, saying you do that all just for doing it is empty, bring nothing to you, and you know that hence the desperate act, you are not happy with yourself and belive then with a woman you will be happy and with a purpose, that is a dangerous thing for you, no a woman will not make you happy, will jsut add more trouble and annoyance in your life, woman yes get happier with a guy becasue she will get protection, attencion, and someone crazy enough to deal with her, woman can't be alone
A woman with a child is fine as a plate. Theyre not going to want you around their child anyway for a long time.

Theres several advantages:

1. She doesnt have time to waste due to ha ing a kid. So less games and straight to the point.
2. She needs a sex provider and occasional companion. She doesnt have as much time to waste so wont flake out as much or run as many games.

She just needs someone for pleasure and fun with her limited time.
 

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Your criteria so specific, your expectations so great, and your desperation levels are so high, that even if you find a gf you'll fear losing her so much that it'll probably back fire and your heart will be crushed.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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