Is my LTR going to LJBF me?

[BobFuest]

She found out i told my friend that i was looking at other girls more. I said it was because she had been a real jerk lately.
now i am stuck in a bullsh1t test with my woman. She is saying she doesnt think she can trust me because i am interested in other girls. that maybe we should take a break but she doesnt know. Basically she is looking at me to say something but i dont know what i should say. So this is what i said,"there are a million girls in the world, its up to you if you want to be the one thats mine."
What do you think?

 

[Bourne]

She has been looking for a way out. She is using that as an excuse.

How did she found out from your friend? Who is your friend?

 

[BobFuest]

She has been looking for a way out. She is using that as an excuse.

How did she found out from your friend? Who is your friend?

my friend talked to her roomate (another guy we thought was our friend) about it and he said somthing to her.

 

[Bourne]

Well, how long you guys been together? What is the status of your relationship? A bit more detail on two of you.

 

[BobFuest]

Well, how long you guys been together? What is the status of your relationship? A bit more detail on two of you.

been together almost a year and the status is not favorable. everything was good until that guy said something really. we had a fight or two but that really rocked the boat. I have been trying to be more of a challenge and spend no time with her and not picking up the phone very much. That seems to work because then she just thinks i am off with other girls but now that she called me and said all this stuff i am not sure what to do.

 

[speedo_meme]

BOB....

She isn't into you anymore. Leave her alone, if she likes you, she will come back. Read the DJ Bible and do a bootcamp.

You didn't come here to get good advice.

You came here to get the advice you wanted. Only the AFC's will tell you what you want to hear.


Bob, you're still an AFC. You will continue to be one until you do something about it. Your current relationship is probably lost. As a matter of fact, you're actually sounding more like a WBAFC, who likes to cry and complain, and quite frankly, you're turning into a troll. This is like the 15th post on this same B1TCH you've been crying about for months.

P.S. Stop cross posting just because you didn't get the advice you wanted to hear in the mature man's forum.

 

[frivolousz21]

I agree with Spedo.


Listen, after a yr....she should be deeeply in love with u?

so what happened..u tell us?

 

[BobFuest]

BOB....

She isn't into you anymore. Leave her alone, if she likes you, she will come back. Read the DJ Bible and do a bootcamp.

You didn't come here to get good advice.

You came here to get the advice you wanted. Only the AFC's will tell you what you want to hear.


Bob, you're still an AFC. You will continue to be one until you do something about it. Your current relationship is probably lost. As a matter of fact, you're actually sounding more like a WBAFC, who likes to cry and complain, and quite frankly, you're turning into a troll. This is like the 15th post on this same B1TCH you've been crying about for months.

P.S. Stop cross posting just because you didn't get the advice you wanted to hear in the mature man's forum.

I HAVE left her alone. She keeps comin back. I am in an LTR why would i talk about any other b1tch? It has been 4 posts with 2 in the last week. When did i get any other advice then "stop analyzing it."

 

[frivolousz21]

I HAVE left her alone. She keeps comin back. I am in an LTR why would i talk about any other b1tch? It has been 4 posts with 2 in the last week. When did i get any other advice then "stop analyzing it."

BOB..listen...relax

after a yr..why would she go???

this isnt a test..no one leaves anyone if they love them..period.

and there is no way by now she doesnt love u.
she either loves u or not....

 

[speedo_meme]

I HAVE left her alone. She keeps comin back. I am in an LTR why would i talk about any other b1tch? It has been 4 posts with 2 in the last week. When did i get any other advice then "stop analyzing it."

Something's not adding up, Bob. SHE keeps coming back, yet you're worried she's going to LJBF's YOU?????? You said she wants to take a break, but she keeps coming back. That's contradictory. I think she is holding onto you while looking for something else. You're there for her, she knows she has you, basically you're needy to her. I will not respond to your posts about this girl any more, you have more than enough information to handle this situation....Good luck.

 

[BobFuest]

BOB..listen...relax

after a yr..why would she go???

this isnt a test..no one leaves anyone if they love them..period.

and there is no way by now she doesnt love u.
she either loves u or not....

ohhhhh see now i finally get what you were trying to say. she wont leave if she loves me and if she does then she didnt so i should just go about my business and she will be back if she really loves me.
and speedo, well we have yet to really break up. she just keeps talking about it or arguing with me. thats why i wondered if it was a test of some kind.
and btw, talking to you guys keeps me from being an AFC. I have to talk to someone about it to sort out my thoughts before i try to do something stupid. Thats all.

 

[Blusher]

Your story about this girl and your relationship is getting more confusing by the day Bob...Anyway...

I have been trying to be more of a challenge and spend no time with her and not picking up the phone very much. That seems to work because then she just thinks i am off with other girls but now that she called me and said all this stuff i am not sure what to do.

I hope you understand there's a gap between 'being a challenge' and 'being off with other girls'

I don't know what your rules are but if you're in an exclusive relationship I do not see how it could be beneficial in any way to let her think that you're actually cheating on her...

At that stage, I'd say: spend time with her and have fun. If she's a pain in the ass dump her. Simple as that.