Is my father just worried about his ego, reputation?

[Stephen89]

So I remember when I was young he would tell my sister "I thought you was going to beat your brother in academics".

Also he seemed to laugh everyone I read a book and shouted at me harshly when we went to the shopping centre where I said can I buy some educational books to help with school, he was all right with my sister saying the same thing.

Theirs also times when my uncle and aunties was at my house and he would say "I'm going to give the house to my daughter" thus embarrassing me. He's also phoned them saying this humiliating me further or making them think it's me that's the problem.

He also says theirs only my sister left for me to my uncle and aunties.

Also when I dropped out of uni and my sister got a graduate job my father was ignoring me quiet a lot and was also being rude and sarcastic towards me in front of others.

Also he said I need to pass my driving test to be clever and would complain a lot about it, especially when I was 19. So to be clever you need to drive?

When I was a late teen he would tell me not to have friends, not to go out and don't talk to females. Every time my sister argued with him he would tell us to get married and he would harshly tell me to get married at 24.

My sister goes a lot and he cries to us because he's afraid what people will think of him or if they will say stuff to him.

He is also very arrogant, I say I'm looking for a job and he says I say this all the time and I wont. Because I have a lot of stuff in my room he says I'm going to become some addict or something.

I believe he's acting like this to stop his own reputation, ego getting damaged, what do you think?

 

[switch7]

Your dad sounds like a narcissist. Look up golden child syndrome.

He's toxic, don't let him get into your head whatever you do.

 

[Serenity]

Do you still live with this asshole? If you do then get the fuck out as soon as possible. He sounds like a horrible person. When or if you don't live with him then tell him to fuck off and ignore him.

You probably can't fight this, so better to leave it. Don't show forgiveness before he does.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You have to leave. It's great you held up this well.

 

[BeExcellent]

Why are you choosing to remain in his home?

You are an adult. Find a job, move out and be independent. He sounds plenty flawed sure.

But you are electing to stay there.

Move out. Problem solved.

 

[Crissco]

I understand, my dads the same way in certain ways, not that extreme, but my dad would / will belittle people to protect him own ego / self-esteem. So I understand where you are coming from, fact is like others said dont let it get in your head, get out, get your own place, do you, focus on you, do what you want. You arent entitled to talk to your parents by anymeans. I didnt cut my parents off, but i limit my time and when we do talk its better conversations overall. I hang up the phone and go back to doing my thing(not all the time mind you as it still gets to my head) but you have to learn to how do I put it, set it and forget it, talk, have a convo but the second the phone is hung up..etc forget about it, switch tunes and go back to doing whats best for you.

 

[190cmofcancer]

i have it similar stephen. but your dad is right partially. your a beta