You look like attractive and very manly. That said, it's not about how you look, at all. It's how you see yourself and consequently, what you exude. You know how they say you'll get a girlfriend when you stop looking? It actually means if you are actively looking, you have this air of neediness and urgency around you, like you're hungry and on a hunt - it's like spraying yourself with camel piss for a job interview at Chanel, you make a selection which girls pass your visual minimums and if there are more, you go for the hottest, always looking for the hottest. What you should be doing is not not look for a girl, but sort of forget about it AND keep your eyes open to opportunity. A natural opportunity, that just happens to present itself at one point. You have got to have this mentality that it doesn't matter what happens, not tonight not tomorrow, you are there to enjoy every moment that passes and you can enjoy it even if you are walking all by yourself, you are enjoying every moment even talking to an unattractive girl, so talk to everybody, don't be selective. When you relax like that, people around you tune to your vibe and because you will be open and receptive they will be too, and you will enjoy the conversation and they will too and asking them to see them again for a drink will be the most natural thing ever.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Is my face the problem?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Thanks probably true that I am projecting insecurity. I got a short haircut today and it looks stupid anyway lol.hudpes said:You look like attractive and very manly. That said, it's not about how you look, at all. It's how you see yourself and consequently, what you exude. You know how they say you'll get a girlfriend when you stop looking? It actually means if you are actively looking, you have this air of neediness and urgency around you, like you're hungry and on a hunt - it's like spraying yourself with camel piss for a job interview at Chanel, you make a selection which girls pass your visual minimums and if there are more, you go for the hottest, always looking for the hottest. What you should be doing is not not look for a girl, but sort of forget about it AND keep your eyes open to opportunity. A natural opportunity, that just happens to present itself at one point. You have got to have this mentality that it doesn't matter what happens, not tonight not tomorrow, you are there to enjoy every moment that passes and you can enjoy it even if you are walking all by yourself, you are enjoying every moment even talking to an unattractive girl, so talk to everybody, don't be selective. When you relax like that, people around you tune to your vibe and because you will be open and receptive they will be too, and you will enjoy the conversation and they will too and asking them to see them again for a drink will be the most natural thing ever.
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I don't know I don't feel like I do those things but I am probably not putting off good vibes due to feeling unattractive which is reinforcing the reactions...so it's a bad cycle.bradd80 said:djokovic,
or maybe the problem might be that you're still exhibiting signs of hunger/desperation. You might not even consciously notice it, but maybe things like going out to clubs and looking to get laid, looking around like a rapist trying to find his next victim, leaning in to women when they talk to you, or acting even slightly desperate (such as asking a girl to stick around at a party when she tells you her friends are telling her she has to go) are obvious examples. Maybe you're giving off one of these hints, or even less obvious ones?
Not saying you do, I'm just suggesting you look at your own actions a little more consciously to make sure you don't give off signs of bad vibes or hunger/desperation.
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dude you have the face that has the potential for being a GQ Model
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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You need to hit on only hot chicks.
You will intimidate the hell out of the 6's and 7's, and they'll do crazy sh¡t because you're "out of their league". All of THEIR insecurities will project onto you, and they'll try to bring you down to their low level.
Nope, hit on smoking hot betties ONLY. Not only will it boost your confidence, but you'll have less of the jealousy issues directed your way.
Being a good looking guy myself, I used to think humbly and target women that were average. Being above average looking, this only resulted in counter-intuitive outcomes. Fuglies would attack me on any-and-all levels in attempts to find or create flaws in order to justify to themselves how they could be with such a hot dude. It's craziness, so I can completely understand why a chick would come on here and post a picture of a man that just dumped her. Jealousy makes people do ridiculous things.
That's right, lady, his face is the reason he's not with you right now: he's much too good looking to be seen around town with your hideous lack of self-esteem. That, and his eastern european values will never allow a place for your american barbie-clone tripe in his life.
You will intimidate the hell out of the 6's and 7's, and they'll do crazy sh¡t because you're "out of their league". All of THEIR insecurities will project onto you, and they'll try to bring you down to their low level.
Nope, hit on smoking hot betties ONLY. Not only will it boost your confidence, but you'll have less of the jealousy issues directed your way.
Being a good looking guy myself, I used to think humbly and target women that were average. Being above average looking, this only resulted in counter-intuitive outcomes. Fuglies would attack me on any-and-all levels in attempts to find or create flaws in order to justify to themselves how they could be with such a hot dude. It's craziness, so I can completely understand why a chick would come on here and post a picture of a man that just dumped her. Jealousy makes people do ridiculous things.
That's right, lady, his face is the reason he's not with you right now: he's much too good looking to be seen around town with your hideous lack of self-esteem. That, and his eastern european values will never allow a place for your american barbie-clone tripe in his life.
Yes, show us the picture of yourself. You know, the other half of that cropped photo?Here's a pic from the spring is there anything I could maybe do to improve?
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OP I'm sure you have had your share of success with the ladies before so I doubt it is your looks
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I don't understand any of this (no homo) because you are in the top 5% of good looking guys. (no homo).
Is this some kind of joke?
No homo.
Is this some kind of joke?
No homo.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Well OP you are much better looking than me