Hello Dons!
My ex is doing some very strange things lately and would like to get some of your expertise as to what she's doing and what I should do going forward. We've been part for about 4 months now, she broke up with me. Prior to this story, I had gone no contact with her for over 2 months.
The story begins about 3 weeks ago, I called her to see how she was doing...in hindsight, I realize this was a bad idea, but never the less, we talked for about 20 mins, I had some selfish reasons for calling, I was going to Vegas and I wanted her to see I was going out and having fun without her. I told her I was going, there was also some small talk, nothing earth shattering, but it was a decent conversation.
Then the day before my trip to Vegas she sends me a text telling me to play roulette and bet on some numbers that her dog told her would be lucky and if I won, all her dog wanted in return was some bacon treats. It was cute, I guess, I texted her back about an hour later and said sure if I win she can have all the bacon she wants and rub her belly for luck! (sounds stupid, but her dog loved the hell outta me!). Anyway, that was that.
I return from Vegas and the next day I get another text from her..."are you back"? It struck me as slightly odd that she would care, but I know she was wondering how my trip was. So I waited a while and called her back. She asked about my trip and where we went. Then, to make it like she wasn't calling about my trip, she asked me some random question about the computer I had bought for her while we were together. Things felt better between us, so I suggested we get dinner sometime, if she wanted to, but just left it open.
Now things get strange, a few days after this I get a text from her..."are you around"? Again, I waited about 45 mins to respond, I call her. She answers, how are you? What new? I'm thinking to myself we talked 4 days ago, could really be new?? Anyway, she goes on to say " I have something to tell you". She had an ex that was sorta stalking her while we were together, nothing violent, just creepy stuff. Apparently he got a hold of her and to get rid of him, she told him she was married...his response was, to who? And he said my name. That freaked her out, cuz there is no way he should know who I am or what my name is. I never met him before. So she felt like she needed to call me and tell me this. Personally, it sounded very much like a cry for attention.
So the weekend passed, and Monday morning I get a text from her with a picture of her hand with a ring on it. The caption reads "my wedding ring". Talk about creepy?? I'm shaking my head thinking she went to all the trouble to dump me, now she wants to pretend her and I are married...all I can think is what did I get myself into??? She was wearing the ring in case she happened to run into him, so she could confirm that she was "married". All I could do was make a joke out of it and laugh it off. But to be honest, the whole thing made me wonder what was she thinking???
Finally, this past Sunday I got yet another text from her..."how's it going"? I was busy having dinner with my folks, so after about an hour and a half I texted her back that everything was fine and I was really busy at work, I got no response. So the next day, I worked all day and tried to call her back, thinking some madness went on with "our stalker" and figured I should find out what's up. No answer, but 20 mins later she texts me..."dinner?". Reluctantly, I agreed, we met and had a nice dinner and pleasant conversation. At the end of the evening, she asked for directions to the nearest Jack n the Box. I got my phone out, but I had a random picture of a girl I talked to once on my phone and she saw it! This wasn't planned by me, but she asked, who's that?? I told her not to worry about it. She persisted, who's that?? So I lied and told her it was some girl I was talking to on a dating site I joined. She says, why didn't you tell me that?? I didn't really respond, I don't owe her an explanation anyway. So I could tell that got her in a huff, she hurried up and left. I haven't heard from her since, which has been a week now.
I'd like to get the opinions of the Dons here, what was she doing here??? My intention is to go back to no contact and if she ever calls me again, I'll see if it's worth even responding to. How long do you guys think she will go silent for?? I'm done with the drama, but I'm the kind of guy who tries to understand why things happen and would like some feedback. Thanks guys!!
Big Nick
My ex is doing some very strange things lately and would like to get some of your expertise as to what she's doing and what I should do going forward. We've been part for about 4 months now, she broke up with me. Prior to this story, I had gone no contact with her for over 2 months.
The story begins about 3 weeks ago, I called her to see how she was doing...in hindsight, I realize this was a bad idea, but never the less, we talked for about 20 mins, I had some selfish reasons for calling, I was going to Vegas and I wanted her to see I was going out and having fun without her. I told her I was going, there was also some small talk, nothing earth shattering, but it was a decent conversation.
Then the day before my trip to Vegas she sends me a text telling me to play roulette and bet on some numbers that her dog told her would be lucky and if I won, all her dog wanted in return was some bacon treats. It was cute, I guess, I texted her back about an hour later and said sure if I win she can have all the bacon she wants and rub her belly for luck! (sounds stupid, but her dog loved the hell outta me!). Anyway, that was that.
I return from Vegas and the next day I get another text from her..."are you back"? It struck me as slightly odd that she would care, but I know she was wondering how my trip was. So I waited a while and called her back. She asked about my trip and where we went. Then, to make it like she wasn't calling about my trip, she asked me some random question about the computer I had bought for her while we were together. Things felt better between us, so I suggested we get dinner sometime, if she wanted to, but just left it open.
Now things get strange, a few days after this I get a text from her..."are you around"? Again, I waited about 45 mins to respond, I call her. She answers, how are you? What new? I'm thinking to myself we talked 4 days ago, could really be new?? Anyway, she goes on to say " I have something to tell you". She had an ex that was sorta stalking her while we were together, nothing violent, just creepy stuff. Apparently he got a hold of her and to get rid of him, she told him she was married...his response was, to who? And he said my name. That freaked her out, cuz there is no way he should know who I am or what my name is. I never met him before. So she felt like she needed to call me and tell me this. Personally, it sounded very much like a cry for attention.
So the weekend passed, and Monday morning I get a text from her with a picture of her hand with a ring on it. The caption reads "my wedding ring". Talk about creepy?? I'm shaking my head thinking she went to all the trouble to dump me, now she wants to pretend her and I are married...all I can think is what did I get myself into??? She was wearing the ring in case she happened to run into him, so she could confirm that she was "married". All I could do was make a joke out of it and laugh it off. But to be honest, the whole thing made me wonder what was she thinking???
Finally, this past Sunday I got yet another text from her..."how's it going"? I was busy having dinner with my folks, so after about an hour and a half I texted her back that everything was fine and I was really busy at work, I got no response. So the next day, I worked all day and tried to call her back, thinking some madness went on with "our stalker" and figured I should find out what's up. No answer, but 20 mins later she texts me..."dinner?". Reluctantly, I agreed, we met and had a nice dinner and pleasant conversation. At the end of the evening, she asked for directions to the nearest Jack n the Box. I got my phone out, but I had a random picture of a girl I talked to once on my phone and she saw it! This wasn't planned by me, but she asked, who's that?? I told her not to worry about it. She persisted, who's that?? So I lied and told her it was some girl I was talking to on a dating site I joined. She says, why didn't you tell me that?? I didn't really respond, I don't owe her an explanation anyway. So I could tell that got her in a huff, she hurried up and left. I haven't heard from her since, which has been a week now.
I'd like to get the opinions of the Dons here, what was she doing here??? My intention is to go back to no contact and if she ever calls me again, I'll see if it's worth even responding to. How long do you guys think she will go silent for?? I'm done with the drama, but I'm the kind of guy who tries to understand why things happen and would like some feedback. Thanks guys!!
Big Nick
