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Is listenning to music with headphones good thing?

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I just started listenning to music via mp3 player 6 months ago, I listen to music anytime I'm outside, and this are the headphones I use...

http://playlistmag.com/products/complete/229-detail.php

So does it give good image or bad image in terms of attraction.
I see myself getting excited onmany occasions, as I listen to very highbit club music as well as desi remix music, so does it give good or bad impression?

Before getting mp3 player I always hated long bus or metro rides as I always used to get nervous by long stares people give, but with music I find that I become less stressed and nervous as I can easilly revert my attention to music and avoid contact when I feel uncomfoprtable, is this a good thing? or should I change it?

How do you guys keep yourself occupied on bus or metro rides? I just find it very uncomfortable sitting and doing nothing...
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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music is awsome when ur board on the bus or what ever. I find books are also a good way to do it. you can combine the two listen to classical music while you read a good book, non-fiction is better than fiction. because you can open chicks by stating some thing intersting you just read. an awsome book to read is HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE, and you could ask, hey check this out. "intresting passage" what do you think about it...
 

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Canadien said:
I just started listenning to music via mp3 player 6 months ago, I listen to music anytime I'm outside, and this are the headphones I use...

http://playlistmag.com/products/complete/229-detail.php

So does it give good image or bad image in terms of attraction.
I see myself getting excited onmany occasions, as I listen to very highbit club music as well as desi remix music, so does it give good or bad impression?

Before getting mp3 player I always hated long bus or metro rides as I always used to get nervous by long stares people give, but with music I find that I become less stressed and nervous as I can easilly revert my attention to music and avoid contact when I feel uncomfoprtable, is this a good thing? or should I change it?

How do you guys keep yourself occupied on bus or metro rides? I just find it very uncomfortable sitting and doing nothing...

Music is good but not too much.I used to have headphones on my ears basically every where I went and it was big headphones.These days I am very self conscious about my headphones I don't like to have them on all the time because I feel I will attract less females with them.I have never really gotten female attention really with headphones on.I was trying to get cool looking ear buds or clip ons but the quality with those are not good.It's either you try to look cool with the ear buds or clip ons and you will probably get attention or you go for nothing or use the big headphones selectively it's up to you.
 

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I'd advise against it.

When I walk around town and see a girl wearing her headphones I'm automatically turned off. She appears (to ME) to be someone who's closed to the world, someone who doesn't want to meet anyone.
 

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realsmoothie said:
I'd advise against it.

When I walk around town and see a girl wearing her headphones I'm automatically turned off. She appears (to ME) to be someone who's closed to the world, someone who doesn't want to meet anyone.

Yeah but if you're into music you can't stop listening to your music you just have to be selective about it.If you're a DJ or you have a great interest in music or music is your only form of relaxation or whatever you're gonna tell somebody to stop listening to music whatsoever I don't think you would.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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@ Canadien,

How do the headphones sound? I could use some new ones for my PC. They need to sound good,I get picky about headphones.
 

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i cant leave the house without my music...

headphones are part of my attire... i go to formal events rocking the headphones cuz i'd rather not go without music

yeah so what if i block out the entire world... im usually too busy swaggin from place to place to care... people know if i take off my headphones its because im making the gesture to pay attention to them

if i see a girl with headphones on i wouldnt hesitate to approach her if i made eye contact with her or simply couldnt resist... i dig chicks into music (even tho most of them dont have any taste)
 

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Canadien said:
So does it give good image or bad image in terms of attraction.
I see myself getting excited onmany occasions, as I listen to very highbit club music as well as desi remix music, so does it give good or bad impression?
God are you stupid?

Everyone knows carrying a boom box on your shoulder is what all the cool guys do.

Geez!
 

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mrRuckus said:
God are you stupid?

Everyone knows carrying a boom box on your shoulder is what all the cool guys do.

Geez!

being negative or positive? Your statement look qiuet a bit abstart, can you elaborate more on what you just said.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Wtf? listen to music if you are bored or whenever you want to! Why do you have to go and make it about bad or good image in terms of attraction?

That's just being insecure. Do you think James Bond would give a **** about how women would view him if he put on headphones?!?
 

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realsmoothie said:
I'd advise against it.

When I walk around town and see a girl wearing her headphones I'm automatically turned off. She appears (to ME) to be someone who's closed to the world, someone who doesn't want to meet anyone.
I agree, it's like this invisible shield that works like insect repellants.
It's the same with them being on the phone (But I've found out that it works excellent to avoid bombs on the streets trying to strike up a conversation about their mom or sister being in the hospital and they need money for cab to go see them lol)
 

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Wtf? listen to music if you are bored or whenever you want to! Why do you have to go and make it about bad or good image in terms of attraction?

That's just being insecure. Do you think James Bond would give a **** about how women would view him if he put on headphones?!?
I would beat the **** out of James Bond, so much for him, HAHAHA!!!
 

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I would beat the **** out of James Bond, so much for him, HAHAHA!!!

wow...just...wow :rolleyes:
 

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First of all, it doesn't matter if a woman looks at you walking by (in your headphones wearing slick sunglasses) and thinks "wow what a cool sexy man." If you are just WALKING BY it doesn't matter what she thinks, because you are being a pvssy and not talking to her.

If you are going to talk to her, or she is going to initiate (very unlikely) then the headphones are an impediment, they wrap you up in your own head and cut you off from the world. If you are serious about meeting women, you can't do it with headphones on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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