"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is life long or short? Answer this ****ing question.

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A person complains about their life and the way it's going, and the typical response is "you're young, you have a long life ahead".

When a person is older, they complain life is too short and was surprised by how fast the years flew by.

I don't know what the **** to think. This is why I want to get my life in order now before I realize I'm 40 and haven't done ****.

So, what is it? Life is short or long?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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*Insert profound and witty statement that does not actually answer question*
 
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nonameok said:
A person complains about their life and the way it's going, and the typical response is "you're young, you have a long life ahead".

When a person is older, they complain life is too short and was surprised by how fast the years flew by.

I don't know what the **** to think. This is why I want to get my life in order now before I realize I'm 40 and haven't done ****.

So, what is it? Life is short or long?
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Life is long and tedious if you sit in front of your computer screen every night.

Life is short if you have adventure and excitement in your life.
 
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Smack said:
Life is long and tedious if you sit in front of your computer screen every night.

Life is short if you have adventure and excitement in your life.
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Actually the opposite is true.

The more anxiety you have in your daily life and the less you enjoy your daily life its when you realise how short life is and how much you are missing out on.

Its not about the length of life really its more to do about the quality of life.

If someone were to give you 2 options:

A) You get to live until you are 100 years old but the only catch is that you got to live the rest of your life in a maximum security prison.

B) you get to live on an Island paradise and get to fvck hot women every day and pretty much all your needs and wants are fulifilled.... however the only catch is that you die after just one year.

Which one would you choose?!
 
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DJDamage said:
Actually the opposite is true.

The more anxiety you have in your daily life and the less you enjoy your daily life its when you realise how short life is and how much you are missing out on.

Its not about the length of life really its more to do about the quality of life.

If someone were to give you 2 options:

A) You get to live until you are 100 years old but the only catch is that you got to live the rest of your life in a maximum security prison.

B) you get to live on an Island paradise and get to fvck hot women every day and pretty much all your needs and wants are fulifilled.... however the only catch is that you die after just one year.

Which one would you choose?!
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Well I don't know about you but whenever I'm stuck in the house for prolonged amounts of time, friends are busy and I'm home from uni, then yes life's boring and goes incredibly slow.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well I don't know about you but whenever I'm stuck in the house for prolonged amounts of time, friends are busy and I'm home from uni, then yes life's boring and goes incredibly slow.
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Would you really be worrying about the concept of time if you are having the time of your life and doing whatever you wanted to do?
 
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DJDamage said:
Actually the opposite is true.

The more anxiety you have in your daily life and the less you enjoy your daily life its when you realise how short life is and how much you are missing out on.
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Adventure and excitment doesnt exactly equate to anxiety for everyone. Some people have a need for a higher level of stimuli while others require less. Anxiety and stress will have a negative effect on you and your body though.

But to the OP...stop asking philosophical questions and start doing something. Each post you make you become like Elstud and that cholo capecrusader. Start living in a world of theory and start executing something.
 
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Isn't this a pretty f ucking obvious question to answer? Life is short! You need to cram as many things into it as possible before you die.

If you take the attitude "life is long" you will put things off further and further until you forget about them and never do them at all, thus being a f ucking loser.

and the same goes for getting chicks. Get the f uck out there drink loads and pull like f uck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy,
a chance to draw back.
Always ineffectiveness. Concerning
all acts of initiative and creation,
there is one elementary truth -
the ignorance of which kills countless
ideas and splendid plans.
This is, that the moment one definitely
commits oneself, then providence
moves too. All sorts of things occur to help
one, that would never otherwise had occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the
decision, raising in one's favour all manner
of unforeseen incidents and material assistance,
which no man could have dreamed would
have come his way. Whatever you can do
or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and
magic in it. Begin it now.


W.H. Murray
(from The Scottish Himalayan Expedition).
 
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Well i'd say being young or youthful is definitely short. Reminds me of that Mellencamp song, don't remember the title, but one of the main lyrics is, "Oh yeah life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone..".
 
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