Is life better with the less women that you have in it?

[TheFixer14]

I am beginning to wonder this.

I've been taking the month off and while I am not going to say that I am happier, I do feel a bit more mentally stable. Part of that has to do with me psychoanalyzing myself and working on my body with kung fu, the gym, and changing my diet. But another undeniably another has to do with the absence of women.

I still see them of course. But I haven't really approached one with hardcore intent in almost a month. The closest was when I went to this Oscar party and hung out with these two Italian women and got a kiss at the end of the night. But outside of that I've been chilling.

Now that I think about it, being chasing or actually dating, women are just fvcking stressful distractions. If it weren't for the male sex drive we all might be a bit better off in our lives.

I've come to realize that I don't think enjoy conversing with most women moreso than I thought. Now a days I just a ignore women in a way. I've also come to realize that I don't really care for approaching women anymore. Particularly at bars and clubs.

Part of me just wants to keep working on myself, get my career things into gear and not worry about them at all. Once all of that works it's self out they'll be barking up my door. I already get approached by women, so I can't imagine what things will be like in a few months.

Has anyone else taken a break and felt that life was better?

 

[AlphaNate]

So you've sworn off women so you can eventually get more women?

 

[zekko]

Now that I think about it, being chasing or actually dating, women are just fvcking stressful distractions.

I do agree that "dating" sucks, which is one reason why I prefer LTRs.

Women exist for a reason though, life is more complete with them. I don't mean that as a pedestalizing statement, I mean man should have some beauty in his life, the yin and the yang, the masculine and the feminine. They provide balance and reduce the loneliness.

 

[TheFixer14]

So you've sworn off women so you can eventually get more women?

I suppose I am done chasing women and I am only going to focus on myself. I'm going to get to a place in my life where they are coming to me due to my success and body.

One thing that I will say is holding me back is this girl that I feel that I owe something to. I will not be happy and able to have another thing with a girl until I take care of this.

I do agree that "dating" sucks, which is one reason why I prefer LTRs.

Women exist for a reason though, life is more complete with them. I don't mean that as a pedestalizing statement, I mean man should have some beauty in his life, the yin and the yang, the masculine and the feminine. They provide balance and reduce the loneliness.

I agree with you. When I'm in the right mood women are great. As a writer I love writing female characters because of their feminity and complexity. But I suppose I've been around women who aren't really making me appreciate the beauty lately. Hopefully with my self transformation and success the opportunities to experience true female beauty will come. Like I don't think that I've ever actually been in love.

 

[Glassguy]

I feel as if when I am not in a LTR, which I havent been the past year, I like to have 2-3 consistent women around. If one falls off I like to have others within grasp to move into the rotation.

This provides me with abundance, still have scarcity, if one has scheduling problems with meeting up I can make arrangements with another. It has worked well for the past year or so.

I dont have time to catch any feelings. I get what I want, they chase and get what they want. The only downfall is eventually they sense that they are not the only one in the batting lineup and either want an exclusive relationship or get tired of competing for my time.

I suppose if one develops into someone that I would want more with, I wouldnt have a problem getting back into a LTR. I would still try to keep orbiters so if a LTR decided to act loony I would branch swing and make it a smooth transition, putting my needs first.

 

[TheFixer14]

I feel as if when I am not in a LTR, which I havent been the past year, I like to have 2-3 consistent women around. If one falls off I like to have others within grasp to move into the rotation.

This provides me with abundance, still have scarcity, if one has scheduling problems with meeting up I can make arrangements with another. It has worked well for the past year or so.

I dont have time to catch any feelings. I get what I want, they chase and get what they want. The only downfall is eventually they sense that they are not the only one in the batting lineup and either want an exclusive relationship or get tired of competing for my time.

I suppose if one develops into someone that I would want more with, I wouldnt have a problem getting back into a LTR. I would still try to keep orbiters so if a LTR decided to act loony I would branch swing and make it a smooth transition, putting my needs first.

But women can be so annoying LOL. I like the idea of it, and I have done that in the past for very brief periods of time. But it felt more like a job. And I still got a little hurt in the end.

I'm open to anything with the right women or woman in regards to a relationship (I haven't been open to a relationship since I was 19), but it's getting harder to justify the cost.

 

[Glassguy]

But women can be so annoying LOL. I like the idea of it, and I have done that in the past for very brief periods of time. But it felt more like a job. And I still got a little hurt in the end.

I'm open to anything with the right women or woman in regards to a relationship (I haven't been open to a relationship since I was 19), but it's getting harder to justify the cost.

Women can be annoying. Some are too thirsty and get extremely clingy, jealous, demanding, etc. When they get to that point I either have a little chat with them about it or I cut them off, depending on how well I like them. If it happens after the talk, I bounce.

Others are very independent and just emotionally available to continue seeing and have fun with and I get along with them much better than the insecure women.

The most powerful tool you have is the ability to walk away, at any time, if her actions dont fall in line with what you expect from her. Once a woman knows that you will do this, it will normally keep her on best behavior.

Its a game brother. You are either the King or the Pawn, but the choice is yours.

 

[Urbanyst]

The majority of stress associated with women comes from fear of loss. Once you lose that fear, everything gets much easier. You have to be a full person before you can really be confident with women. Otherwise you get pulled into their frame.

Abundance is the solution.

 

[El Payaso]

Yes.

 

[Tenacity]

Is life better with the less women that you have in it?

Well, I don't know what you mean by "better".

Women provide sex and companionship. That's pretty much the only main benefits you are going to get out of women, unless you want to take the LOSER route and start sleeping on their couch/living off of them.

With that being said, sex and companionship (at least to me) is very important. Helps keep me centered and balanced. I like to keep my plate pipeline full so that as plates fall off, new plates that were recently added keep everything balanced.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Women aren't for conversing with. They are for sex, entertainment, and companionship. Leave it at that.

 

[Konada]

I occasionally take a break to focus on my other 'plates' (school, hobbies, self-development) when I become too invested into dating. Life does indeed get better when you put yourself first, but it also gets better when you don't take crap from women and only allow the ones who make your life better in. (with minimal drama).

 

[AlphaNate]

Women provide sex and companionship. That's pretty much the only main benefits you are going to get out of women, unless you want to take the LOSER route and start sleeping on their couch/living off of them.

I mean, procreation in general is pretty important...

 

[ubercat]

In the workplace I would say definitely yes. Friendship I would probably say yes the man woman thing always gets in the way.

 

[Mike32ct]

It is at least ARGUABLE that life is better without women (or with less women). There's less drama and more focus on other things that are important to you. I'm not saying it's ideal or without tradeoffs, but it's arguably not so bad. (I'm not necessarily suggesting it as a permanent situation, but temporarily it's ok.).

I'm honestly NOT "suffering" in this dry spell. I'm doing better at work than ever and loving it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

unless you want to take the LOSER route and start sleeping on their couch/living off of them.

I'll take that deal any day. I've actually had that deal for over a decade of my adult life. Call me all the names you want. Personally, I think work is for suckers, at least most of the time, looking at the miserable existence that most people lead.

 

[ZLin]

I am beginning to wonder this.

I've been taking the month off and while I am not going to say that I am happier, I do feel a bit more mentally stable. Part of that has to do with me psychoanalyzing myself and working on my body with kung fu, the gym, and changing my diet. But another undeniably another has to do with the absence of women.

I still see them of course. But I haven't really approached one with hardcore intent in almost a month. The closest was when I went to this Oscar party and hung out with these two Italian women and got a kiss at the end of the night. But outside of that I've been chilling.

Now that I think about it, being chasing or actually dating, women are just fvcking stressful distractions. If it weren't for the male sex drive we all might be a bit better off in our lives.

I've come to realize that I don't think enjoy conversing with most women moreso than I thought. Now a days I just a ignore women in a way. I've also come to realize that I don't really care for approaching women anymore. Particularly at bars and clubs.

Part of me just wants to keep working on myself, get my career things into gear and not worry about them at all. Once all of that works it's self out they'll be barking up my door. I already get approached by women, so I can't imagine what things will be like in a few months.

Has anyone else taken a break and felt that life was better?

I am as happy today as I was when I didn't have women in my life. The world would be pretty boring without women in it! And who was the Taj Mahal built for? A WOMAN!

With that said, yes they have been very distracting in both good and bad ways but it just makes life more like a fun challenge

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

Dude, you have an anime character as your avatar, I mean come on....

You keep asking questions which show that you are confused and are clearly struggling with women.

Here is my take on it, you're not going to get the typical party girl or younger woman weary of her status with the way I think you come off. I also think that you might have way too many geeky hobbies and might be the overly analytical guy that likes to have intellectual conversations with women, causing them to be turned off.

Either drop the act, go for nerdy girls at comic cons, or stop chasing girls in general.

 

[TheFixer14]

Dude, you have an anime character as your avatar, I mean come on....

You keep asking questions which show that you are confused and are clearly struggling with women.

Here is my take on it, you're not going to get the typical party girl or younger woman weary of her status with the way I think you come off. I also think that you might have way too many geeky hobbies and might be the overly analytical guy that likes to have intellectual conversations with women, causing them to be turned off.

Either drop the act, go for nerdy girls at comic cons, or stop chasing girls in general.

Stfu you judgemental prick. Btw, two of the last three girls that I dated were into anime and manga and the other was a dancer who never drank in her life and is Mormon. I clearly don't go for party girls.

You sound like we are in 1995. It's 2017.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Women aren't for conversing with. They are for sex, entertainment, and companionship. Leave it at that.

So true I fear, as I see groups of women in this coffee shop staring stupidly into their smart phones.