"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is lack of physical exertion creating the "soy boy" effect?

2Rocky

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I'm no child development expert but in my anecdotal observations, kids who grow up active and playing sports and working outdoors, seem to become adults with healthy sex drives. Could it be that epigenetics plays a role there? That physical activity in preadolescents turns on the receptors for hormonal precursors?

We all see that physically active adults have a greater sex drive. Perhaps their hormonal levels were set higher because they built a baseline for Growth hormones and androgens as kids and teens.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Machine10033

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I don’t know what the mechanism is. Growing up my spring, summers and falls were always insanely active and I was a raging horn ball. Winters i slowed down and so did my sex drive.

Even now at 40... I have often thought maybe it vitamin d and sunlight triggering these hormones. It happens every year.... the first nice day in March I go out and play 36 holes or run... or anything outside and I can almost feel my balls wake up.
 

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If women had no sex drive based on their test levels you might be right... Furthermore, having a higher sex drive is actually kinda hard to have when all your time is spent being active, playing sports and accomplishing things instead of having sex.

By all accounts, the age at which sex is first had, seems to be the greatest determination of sex drive and this is probably due to Dopamine; when you are young, your ability to get dopamine is restricted and as life opens up more to us, we find more ways to get a hit of Dopamine, that is, until screen time came along.

Screen Time is basically sex. It might not be sex, but the outcome in your brain Dopamine wise is the same, obviously sex comes with benefits over screen time, but the desire for Dopamine is lessened significantly.
 

Who Dares Win

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I'm no child development expert but in my anecdotal observations, kids who grow up active and playing sports and working outdoors, seem to become adults with healthy sex drives. Could it be that epigenetics plays a role there? That physical activity in preadolescents turns on the receptors for hormonal precursors?

We all see that physically active adults have a greater sex drive. Perhaps their hormonal levels were set higher because they built a baseline for Growth hormones and androgens as kids and teens.
I believe there is some truth in that, I believe our brain sets the whole system to fit in the environment around us.
 

HaleyBaron

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I see a lot of soy boy muscled guys too. I just saw a muscled asian guy crying about losing his girl on tiktok. There's many factors, but I noticed weightlifting cant change men alone. It helps motivation wise, but I see a lot of soft big guys, too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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