"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is it wrong to want to just be single?

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Groverz

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Currently with a gf that I am not 100% into, just not good at saying no and she asked me out. Sometimes she is fun, mostly just sex and drugs, not the life I want to stay in. Not much in common, gets clingy.

Also recently my ex that drove me to this site has broken up with her BF and seems to be showing interest in me again, but rather just not deal with any relationship **** for a while. I hate feeling obligated to do **** :mad: I want to be able to hang out with whoever I want whenever I want and not feel bad about it.

I think the only thing keeping me from breaking it off with the current one is I really don't want to hurt her, she has done nothing wrong and is into me more than I am into her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kailex

Kailex

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No, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be single. But be single.

And please, don't be with someone just so you won't "hurt them". What do you think you are going to end up doing eventually anyway? I've always hated that as an excuse. It's a cop out.

If you want to be alone, be alone. But don't act like you are trying to spare someone else's feelings. You are just wasting her time. If you don't want to be with her now, what makes you think it'll improve over time?

And learn the value of saying "NO".
 
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Ya, you're right. Dragging it on would make it worse, been on the other side of it. I guess some of it is just me being a ***** and not wanting to deal with breaking it off. Never a easy thing.
 
TheMonkeyKing

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Man.... I was just going to start a thread like this today....

Right now I really can't be bothered with women whatsoever.

The next bird I properly date will be a f*cking 10.5 and be so in love with me, she'll basically consent to be my personal slave.

And I agree about staying with someone for the sake of it. The couple of times I've done that, it's turned awkward pretty quickly. Breaking up sucks, but being with someone you don't really want sucks harder.
 
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I've been single for 5 years, and no signs of changing anytime soon.
Single life suits me perfectly.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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