"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is it wrong to check a gf's phone?

SteveTheDon

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I heard if you dig for dirt you will eventually find some.. I get tempted to check her phone for calls and texts when shes in the shower or sleeping. Is this wrong? I only did it a couple times, seen a weird # but no texts...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SteveTheDon

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no some might think its ok if u are supicious, others might never think to do a thing. I was just wondering as I get the urge to when I see it there and shes not around..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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You need to trust her if she hasn't done anything wrong. But if you do have a gut feeling then you need to do what you think is right. If I had a bad gut feeling about something that my gf is doing I will "snoop". By the time you really get serious with a girl you shouldn't need to do this however since you should already trust her.
 

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Rid yourself of insecurity, you're sure to lose her if you're insecure.
 

st_99

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I think you're asking the wrong question. It may be wrong, it may not be wrong, depends on who you ask but that's mainly irrelevant. The question you should be asking yourself is, do I really want to live like this, does this feel like a good relationship, am I f*cked up in the head a bit?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't do it.

Trust her until she proves you wrong.

I would never ever check Mrs.5strings phone.
 

SamTheHobit

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st_99 said:
I think you're asking the wrong question. It may be wrong, it may not be wrong, depends on who you ask but that's mainly irrelevant. The question you should be asking yourself is, do I really want to live like this, does this feel like a good relationship, am I f*cked up in the head a bit?
Lmfao the last part cracked me up.
 

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The day you feel you need to check her phone is the day you should walk away.
 
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