Is it wrong I always take women to the same bar :D

[sosousage]

There are many bars/cafes/pubs in the center but this one seems most comfortable

I think the people working there already know me its bad because they see me often with different women .


What would you do? I have next date today. I know this place already so it feels good I dont feel to confident when I explore places on first date.

Also theres always a lot of people its top bar in the city I believe. it has 1k reviews on google maps while other places barely 50.

 

[El Payaso]

Switch it up.

 

[The Duke]

I do the same thing for the same reasons. One of the female wait staff gave me the "ahh haa, I am onto you" look last time. So I gave her the " haha, you're next" look right back to her.

If it works for ya keep doing it!

 

[BeExcellent]

It's fine. Preferable even. You are comfortable, you know the staff (especially bouncers & bartenders) and perhaps the "regulars", and some of the women there will have seen you there with different women.

All of that ups your social proof aka cool factor. Be sure to schmooze the staff and be social/friendly with the other regulars.

That is to your advantage. Trust me.

 

[Desdinova]

Why change it if it works for you? You're going to have social proof working in your favor.

 

[Alvafe]

if is not the same woman sure, its all good, if is the same I would change a little, just to see if there is anything new at least, myself I would be bored in going to the same place always, but if is a new woman then its better you go to a place you know

 

[Bible_Belt]

theres always a lot of people its top bar in the city I believe.

Applebee's right? I know that's the only place I ever go, but only after 9 when the appetizers are half-price.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Applebee's right? I know that's the only place I ever go, but only after 9 when the appetizers are half-price.

That is the worst restaurant ever. It's the only restaurant I refuse to go in because the portions are like a kids meal and they cost $18.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

My face is known in every bar down town. Yet I've barely ever had a conversation with anyone.

I used to a couple years ago. I was fairly well-known. But now.... silence.

 

[Bible_Belt]

That is the worst restaurant ever. It's the only restaurant I refuse to go in because the portions are like a kids meal and they cost $18.

You're not supposed to eat the entrees. They are all frozen tv dinners anyway. The half-price appetizers will feed two people for $9. Drink specials are mediocre, but they do have $1 Long Island Teas for the entire month of December. The bar tender didn't even keep track of my bill. When I asked for it, she asked me how many drinks I had...as if I remember, they were $1. I think I had 8 or 9. We settled on $5, and I gave her a 100% tip. I realize that not everyone here is on my level financially, and I'm not trying to rub my wealth in anyone's face, but it is obviously the only reason I do so well with women.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

You're not supposed to eat the entrees. They are all frozen tv dinners anyway. The half-price appetizers will feed two people for $9. Drink specials are mediocre, but they do have $1 Long Island Teas for the entire month of December. The bar tender didn't even keep track of my bill. When I asked for it, she asked me how many drinks I had...as if I remember, they were $1. I think I had 8 or 9. We settled on $5, and I gave her a 100% tip. I realize that not everyone here is on my level financially, and I'm not trying to rub my wealth in anyone's face, but it is obviously the only reason I do so well with women.

I'm glad to hear you say that money helps.

I guess I just don't know HOW to eat at Applebee's. Lol.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Hells yeah! I am dropping dolla bills like they is nothing.

Seriously though, your sense of humor needs some work. Spend a few days watching youtube standup comedians. Find something that makes you laugh. Then practice telling that something to other people so that they laugh, too. That's the type of therapy you need. It will make you work on reading the emotions and thoughts of other people. You need that very much. It will make your encounters with women go much more smoothly, when you can become more intuitive.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Hells yeah! I am dropping dolla bills like they is nothing.

Seriously though, your sense of humor needs some work. Spend a few days watching youtube standup comedians. Find something that makes you laugh. Then practice telling that something to other people so that they laugh, too. That's the type of therapy you need. It will make you work on reading the emotions and thoughts of other people. You need that very much. It will make your encounters with women go much more smoothly, when you can become more intuitive.

Actually about 2 months ago, I used to watch stand-up comedians on YouTube all day long. And even more recently, I watch Family Guy clips. This isn't my issue.

Why don't you just say things in English instead of making little jokes and sarcasm. Nobody has time for that sh1t.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Why don't you just say things in English instead of making little jokes and sarcasm. Nobody has time for that sh1t.

Because I think it's funny! I crack me up! That is reason enough. But I am also trying to show you that you have a handicap of human intuition. You are the guy who doesn't get the joke. You can't read people, especially women, and have an idea of what they are thinking. That's your problem. It has nothing to do with money, status, height, physique, intelligence, or the crappy state of modern women. The problem is your obtuseness, denseness, and inability to communicate on the same emotional wavelength as other people. Work on that one thing, and improve, and everything else will start to fall in place for you.

 

[Glassguy]

As far as switching it up, I have a couple favorite places that I take dates. I'm sure the help staff at one place would give me weird looks only if I showed up with the same chick again lol. It's like home field advantage.

It helps if you take a new chick to a place that many people know you. It's good for her to see your affirmed social status.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Because I think it's funny! I crack me up! That is reason enough. But I am also trying to show you that you have a handicap of human intuition. You are the guy who doesn't get the joke. You can't read people, especially women, and have an idea of what they are thinking. That's your problem. It has nothing to do with money, status, height, physique, intelligence, or the crappy state of modern women. The problem is your obtuseness, denseness, and inability to communicate on the same emotional wavelength as other people. Work on that one thing, and improve, and everything else will start to fall in place for you.

Or maybe you can't tell sarcasm over the Internet.

Btw, fvck off @BeExcellent xcellent nobody wants to hear from your pretentious self.

 

[Von]

I have a usual 3 spot (wine, bar-beer style, music)

I always go to the same 3 for first date, I rotate them based on my needs/want, sometimes i consider what the girl drink most and is a good spot for 1st date kino.

Having à usual spot allows you to have social proof (know the good stuff, how you can escalate using the place vibe), few times the barmaid paid for my stuff, called me by my first name. It's always good for social proof especially with a 1st date.

You rotate the 3 places... so you have choice/options with equal value.

Usually date 1 and 3 are at 2 of the usual spot. Date 2 is action date somewhere fun and random.

So Yeah, have more than 1 spot. How? Let's say you go out friday: every friday is X spot

You go out saturday? Saturday is always at Y spot

You got out 1 time à week? Do 2 weeks in a row at spot x, than 2 weeks at spot Y each month.

You usual spot can be: tea house, bar,wine bar, coffee shop etc... it's got to have 1 référence for each spot.

Consider logistic (close to your house)