Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
I don't see any such generalizations to hold true. Sometimes, but certainly not always. But then, they might see the warm, caring person inside of me
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Not all strippers are sociopaths, perhaps only the ones you have encountered. Although many have dark, tortured pasts, so do people like the Dhali Llama.. then again, he barely wears anything... must be a trend?NickBe said:The catch is you will never know, if you are not like me you will never know.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Thread officially de-railed! We are who we are nick and clinical terms like anti-social disorder or sociopath are used to describe qualities of behavior and thinking processes that some people exhibit as you already know. Knowing who and what you are clearly is important if you are going to live out your full potential. From reading your posts you have found financial and social success but I hear you saying beneath your charm and looks you are soulless. I think people toss around the word soul to mean many things as it is.NickBe said:I didn't say they all are but the majority are, almost all the ones I have met are.
Bonhomme it is not a chemical imbalance, you cant recover from being a sociopath. If you are treated as a child you can apparently lead a more normal life whatever that means...
I don't want to be different. I like who I am, i do not want to become part of the masses.
As far as your description goes it is about right. I will also add, inability to love and lack of emotion.no sense of morality beyond basic survival instincts used to navigate the social system
Fair enough. Looks like it works for you. Your state definitely appears more controlled than mine was, NickBe.I don't want to be different. I like who I am, i do not want to become part of the masses.
I'd consider that a sense of morality ... even a sort of love, for what it's worth.if I ever met a pedophile I would break his neck. I do not like the idea of a man abusing a child.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Do you exhibit those traits Nick? You do speak similarly to the sociopaths i've met. I lived with a very violent sociopath/psychopath and saw the traits you mentioned as well as a lack of remorse for hurting others, problems keeping long-term friends, inability to empathize with others, violence and threats used to get what they want, etc.NickBe said:Sociopaths also share these traits:
- Indulge in drug use or alcohol abuse.
- Can not hold down a steady job.
If that doesn't sound like the average stripper....
Is there anyone in your life that you have emotional attachment to or are you detached from everyone? Is there anyone that that accident could have happened to that would have phased you?NickBe said:Last year I saw a girl get hit by a car, she flew across the road hit the pavement and rolled. When the stopped rolling her head kind of opened. Everybody was freaking out, screaming, crying, in shock. People calling the ambulance and somebody screaming for a doctor. Somehow I knew the girl was dead I knew it, everybody else thought she was still alive but I knew she was dead. Everybody around me was either screaming, crying or silent in shock. I didn't feel anything, I didn't see a dead person, I saw rotting meat. I pretended that I was effected by it like i pretend everything in my life but truthfully it didn't phase me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I used to work with sociopaths at a law firm. If you think they are harmless, think again.
I was viciously attacked, denied being given help, management denied the behavior and actions of the sociopaths, I was called names, I was slandered and libeled, I had my projects sabotaged, I had eye drops and mercury poured into my water cup while another sociopath distracted me, and had a lot of stress heaped on me by sociopaths and management until I developed physical and mental illnesses.
I myself am not a sociopath because I suffer and I suffered a lot and felt a lot of pain, and it made it hard to do any work without getting sick.
Sociopaths affect productivity, morale, destroy teams, sabotage projects, and generally backstab other people. That means they cut into profits and cause a lot of expenses and are a liability.
Sure I wasn't murdered by a sociopath, but they did threaten to murder me, rape me, murder my family, rape my family members, and ruin my career.
In fact, my career was ruined and I haven't worked since 2002.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.