"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is it sometimes just luck?

NotAgain

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We talk on the forum about Dj's skills and confidence etc but I'm starting to think getting girls is just as much right place at the right time. I am so different to the man I use to be and much more improved. The problem though lately is that every girl I meet at partys I'm interested in are already in a relationship. I've kino'd, escalated and everything until a friend later tells me they're taken of which I'll back away (still will talk to them but like any other person).

Thing is I'm not even going for the high HB's (even if they are interested) but rather the girls with great personality that I click with (just can't seem to pull it off if I'm not attracted to her or can't make conversation).

I think in another thread someone's posted about how not every woman will be attracted to you. I just wanted to add, it's just as much 'right time at the right moment too' no matter how great you have improved yourself or your pick up skills. Am I right?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PapiChulo

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It is more like getting with quality women in the extremely short time window they are single. You have to have your sh!t together and strike with no mercy. The luck part is more about getting laid. Also if you are indeed attractive, most taken women wanna be with you. Ha ha. Plus, even of a chump gets a chance he still manages to f$&k it up.
 

NotAgain

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Most true my good man. So even if I have my affairs in order now, is it still me shooting myself in the foot if girls I seem to be drawn to aren't single even if I don't know? My friends say I have that quality that makes people instantly comfortable. Plus that with being 'quite ripped' as a few girls say (because I am no ******* who is up myself), I think my chances are alright.

So whats my best course of action if this keeps happening? Or is it a matter of just plugging away and keeping at it making sure that when that 'extremely short time window of them being single' does open, I go for it?

Cheers for the advice.
 

Packers2010

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fooking the girl you have loved and been friendzoned for the past 7 years, this is luck.

getting with quality women on a regular basis. is skill.

i don't see any luck in this "game" and I've seen luck come and go. i'm a recovering gamblerholic.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I say if an unskilled, average joe goes after a hot girl and gets her, it's luck. In reality, when a muscular jerk comes along, the joe gotta go.

It's a matter of your timing and game and looks.
 
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