Is it right to really pay that much attention to what women say?

[SgtSplacker]

Women change their minds all the time. I have met women that constantly go back on what they say and don't give it a second thought. Of course there are scenarios where she says "I'm leaving" and really leaves and you can't really ignore that... not all the time at least.

I feel that folks around here take what women say at face value without considering just how fragile and subject to change a woman's statements at that moment really are. Then we make these hardened decisions based off of that, fueled by the PUA articles we read. And it's like, really?

I think our game needs to take this into more consideration. I think an indifferent attitude towards much of what women say is good. And keeping a kind of open door, lenient acceptance attitude while not taking any BS of course is good for us. I'm not suggesting that not applying game is the idea, but I am suggesting that you should always leave room for her to just realize shes being an idiot and come back to you with the understanding that what she said last night was just nonsense.

 

[Iceberg]

I think our game needs to take this into more consideration. I think an indifferent attitude towards much of what women say is good. And keeping a kind of open door, lenient acceptance attitude while not taking any BS of course is good for us. I'm not suggesting that not applying game is the idea, but I am suggesting that you should always leave room for her to just realize shes being an idiot and come back to you with the understanding that what she said last night was just nonsense.

An indifferent attitude towards what women say is EVERYTHING.

(Unless it's mom)

It's not their fault. It's just the way they were built. Their beliefs are easily swayed...which is powerful, if you know how to talk to women....so their opinions change with the wind.

 

[st_99]

I have girls that i'm not into that say some dumb sh*t to me sometimes but I couldn't care less and don't think about it for more than a minute. I've also had girls that i've been very into and hung on EVERY word. That was a disaster. Lesson is, don't hang on every word, its just dumb. That means you lost the frame and are the inferior one of the two. Bad.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I agree, Sarge. I've been thinking about this lately. I realize that all my life I've been taking what they say with absolute seriousness. I didn't have a clue until very late in life, so I've spent my entire life being confused about women, always expecting them to think like men do. Having grown up with one angry, unstable mother, three sisters, and a largely absentee father I had no perspective and always thought there was something seriously wrong with me.

If ever you want to see an insane asylum, live in a household that I just described. It takes a lot of courage and struggle for a boy to emerge as a man out of that environment. I'm sure there are others here in similar circumstances.

But I digress. You point is excellent, Splacker, and we would all do well to heed your advice. +1

 

[SgtSplacker]

A woman must be treated like a lady but regarded as a child.

 

[jacob]

Women change their minds all the time. I have met women that constantly go back on what they say and don't give it a second thought. Of course there are scenarios where she says "I'm leaving" and really leaves and you can't really ignore that... not all the time at least.

I feel that folks around here take what women say at face value without considering just how fragile and subject to change a woman's statements at that moment really are. Then we make these hardened decisions based off of that, fueled by the PUA articles we read. And it's like, really?

I think our game needs to take this into more consideration. I think an indifferent attitude towards much of what women say is good. And keeping a kind of open door, lenient acceptance attitude while not taking any BS of course is good for us. I'm not suggesting that not applying game is the idea, but I am suggesting that you should always leave room for her to just realize shes being an idiot and come back to you with the understanding that what she said last night was just nonsense.

What a woman says is less important than her behavior towards you.

You guage how interested a female is in you, by how she acts and treats you.

They guage us the same way. That's why they would rather a guy SHOW them he loves them with his actions rather than him saying it...