"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is It possible to Recover from a POOR FIRST IMPRESSION ?

KneghtRyder

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yo,

i think i fccked up again and i need ur suggestions to help me get out of this ..

this whole summer, i've been trying to get with this chick. I think she was my best and most possible chance of getting a hot chick who is interested in me, as she was giving me buying signals the entire summer.

well finally sometime today i go the chance to get with her 1 on 1 and talk to her. but like i said.. i think i ****ed up a good chance because 1) my conversation was weak , in fact after talking to her for a good 3-4 minutes, she says 'alright well i have to go do this..blah' even though she given me full attention for those 3-4 ..she gave me an audition to show my skills but i came up weak due to the fact, i was sleepy and not really feeling my best today.
2) i think the general consensus here is taht when you have a girl that is interested in you...when u approach you must do so with confidence and alpha-ness..i failed to exhibit that.. i was mostly chatting and trying to talk her up socially that was the only positive.

the conversation went like this:
'u are in pre-calc'
'how is taht going'
'how is that prof doing'
'u want to do reserach, thats cool my father works so and so '
'u want to goto that school, thats cool my brother goes here'

i did end up getting her email. .. not her number. THAT IS WHAT SUCKS. I AM ABLE TO WIN a FIRST DATE ON 100% of the Numbers taht I get. I HAVE NEVER GOTTTEN A DATE FROM AN EMAIL>

At this point, its not like I really have a choice, but I NEED to recover to show her that I m an alpha that i'm an interesting in her.

so how can I do this just now with her email ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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baller1985

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get her # after u send her one email, then do your 100% date-from-# conversion thing lol
 

KneghtRyder

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baller1985 said:
get her # after u send her one email, then do your 100% date-from-# conversion thing lol

good advice...man.. i think iam going to begin by asking shyt about her school first email so she'll comfortable..and then on the second reply to her email ask for her number...
 
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