That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Originally posted by [T]he ishop
You are being WAY too vague in what you're saying.
Here's an example of a question that we can actually help you with:
"Is it possible to play soccer for 2 hours straight, at moderate intensity, 1-2 times a week, and still bulk up?"
As for the nutritional program, that's another vague question. What are your goals? It sounds like you're trying to bulk up, but beyond that - what weight are you at now? Age? Height? % of Body Fat? What's your daily caloric intake currently? Do you currently diet (No, not Atkins- do you watch what you eat closely?)
Please, be specific when you repost.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Good argument, but basketball players probably burn as much calories and a lot of them are pretty muscular...or well have u ever seen a big football / rugby player? cause I have..actually most of them are pretty damn big. I bet u they dont really run less than soccer players. Besides if that kid wants to only play soccer once or twice a week for 2hours straight or so, which would be 2-4 hours a week he doesnt even come close to running as much as those athlets I just mentioned. Another example would be all those heavy weight boxers who train for endurance by rope skipping, running and jogging plus boxing pretty much each and every day.If you play full field soccer for 90 minutes, I can almost be sure you will not gain much muscle mass.
If u dont change your eating habits you will (most likely) lose muscle mass as well as fat. Right. You know why? Because you burn more calories and thus (most likely) burn more calories than u eat. If u start eating more though and thus eat more calories than you burn again, you can make up for that and gain mass.Soccer is all about endurance and with all the running you have in a game (about 15km of jogging and sprinting) you will lose muscle mass as well as fat.
Seedorf, Figo, some african players Ive seen...ok they are no bodybuilders but they're still big compared to the average person, not just cut.When you see soccer playings celebrating a goal and take off their shirt, you see they are very cut, with little muscle. When you are running 15km a game 1 kilo of less fat/muscle always helps you last longer.
I'd imagine that Soccer uses more cardio as the fields are bigger, and you use your legs/feet a lot. Don't want to get into an argument of sport vs sportmadgame said:Good argument, but basketball players probably burn as much calories and a lot of them are pretty muscular...or well have u ever seen a big football / rugby player? cause I have..actually most of them are pretty damn big. I bet u they dont really run less than soccer players. Besides if that kid wants to only play soccer once or twice a week for 2hours straight or so, which would be 2-4 hours a week he doesnt even come close to running as much as those athlets I just mentioned. Another example would be all those heavy weight boxers who train for endurance by rope skipping, running and jogging plus boxing pretty much each and every day.
How do they do it?
If u dont change your eating habits you will (most likely) lose muscle mass as well as fat. Right. You know why? Because you burn more calories and thus (most likely) burn more calories than u eat. If u start eating more though and thus eat more calories than you burn again, you can make up for that and gain mass.
Seedorf, Figo, some african players Ive seen...ok they are no bodybuilders but they're still big compared to the average person, not just cut.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.