Is it possible to be too "alpha"

[dudewut]

There is this girl in my class and we are cool and everything, however I have not spoken to her about anything else other than chemistry....

Why?

Well, I am kinda weirded out, something seems off here....she always asks me questions about stuff and when I answer or when I correct her, she apologizes....

Her (holding the lab pamphlet): Hey, so how much CaOH do we need?

Me: its right here (points at page x) *smirk*

Her: oh thanks...yeah sorry


There are so many misplaced sorry and thank yous from this girl ("thank you"s even if I didnt do anything), I am kinda afraid that if I spoke to her out of chemistry context she would call the cops or something. She is kind of aloof but want to close in the gap, however weirding me out in the process.

 

[dudewut]

Actually, lets rename this thread to "How do you approach a girl that is terrified of you"

yeah with all the misplaced "thank you"s and apologies I came to the conclusion that she is scared...I didnt even do anything to her. Maybe I should change my body language to be less dominant

so how do i do this?

 

[MainDroite]

Some people are like that, man. Feeling sorry for the world's aches.

She is intimidated by you. For example, you could have answered "I think we might need that much X but I'm not sure" and pretend you're a bit clueless yourself. Might want to lose the ****iness, too.

 

[dudewut]

Some people are like that, man. Feeling sorry for the world's aches.

She is intimidated by you. For example, you could have answered "I think we might need that much X but I'm not sure" and pretend you're a bit clueless yourself. Might want to lose the ****iness, too.

actually at one time (ok, maybe the majority of the time...its chemistry!)

I dont know wtf is going on and I will say exactly that, "I am not sure", and there she is doing that thing again....

I need to soften the situation up a bit...I dont know how, oh here is an excerpt on our text, like 16 minutes after I ignored her when she said "hi" (I didnt, I was on the phone)

Her: hey do you kno if we have lab tomorrow? And do u have your data so I can write up my lab report for tomorrow pleasee

Me (30 minutes later) : no lab, the lab report is due on Wednesday, talk to my lab partner for the info

Her (2 seconds): oh ok, thank you...sorry

see? what I mean?

The next day, just to soften up my d!ck image...

Me: Did x send you the info?

Her (2 seconds later): yes thanks, I'm gonna send him mine once I get done


first, how the eff does she reply so fast? second she is saying thanks for nothing......I didnt send her the stuff, my lab partner did lmao


maybe I am looking into this too much. how shall I break the ice here?

 

[Alle_Gory]

how shall I break the ice here?

Gee, I don't know how do you break the ice with other people?

Ask them questions and get them talking. You're already talking (about work you're doing) now talk about something else!

Well, I am kinda weirded out, something seems off here....she always asks me questions about stuff and when I answer or when I correct her, she apologizes....

She's probably shy if you want her to talk then don't be judgmental, don't correct her. If you want her to open up then shut up once in awhile and let her speak. Your responses should be like "oh, that's neat" and "that's kind of cool" and "oh, so what happened then?".

Try it. I guarantee it will work better than what's going on now.