This current girl I been on 2 dates with has gone cold and I duno why. Last time I called her she was talking about how if I was lucky she'd invite me to join her and her hot gf.. I didn't think anything of it at time and thought she meant to go out but she meant 3some. Then 2days later I text her to touch base and she mentioned the invite to join them but I still thought she meant to go out, so I told her jokingly that if it was a 3some I'd accept but if it was to go out I'd have to decline, she text me back that she meant a 3some. Now this where I made fatal error cos I became overkeen by the prospect of this so I told her that I thought our 1st time would be just us 2(just in case she was testing me) then she responded back about her friend not being sure about it. I go to her to let me know and I'd stay up late for this event and hope it won't go to waste. So I tell text her last night that I hope se wasn't having too much fun without me around midnight. I shouldn't have done this cos I already made it clear that shek'd contact
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
is it over?
- Thread starter pete101
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Me if its on, and already told her day before that I'd be staying up. She text me back that she was having a good time at a club. Then I text her back to call me if I was invited for the 'after' party and I'd be ready and waiting. I already said this day before I musta been coming across too desperate and keen for the 3sonme. Anyway I tried calling her this afternoon at 2.30pn she didn't pick up I duno if cos she thought I'd be calling abt her non call last night with the 3some thing. I proceeded to text her 45mins later saying what time we're meeting up tonight and we'd go into town(just so she didn't think I was looking for just sex) she hasn't replied. Earlier in week when we talked she mentioned she'd be out with her gf either fri or sat this week so couldn't give me yes or no but whichever night she was out she'd be out with me the other night. Is it over? I feel fact she didn't give me firm time is cos her gf had 1st priority over me so she got to choose which night out. Did I dlv myself too much?
She's serious about the girl on girl thing but whether the 3some is serious offer is p1ssing me of, she called me and I f'd up cos I didn't ask the question 'so when are me and u meeting up tonight?' But instead asked 'are u going out tonight?' Then went onto say ki haven't confirmed for my plans tonight so..' I realise it looks like I'm waiting around for her to decide. Then she goes 'well let me call u after dinner cos me and my friend may come by' instead of me questioning it I just go 'ok'. Now ikm p1ssed cos earlier in week the arrangement was that if I am not seeing her fri I'll see her sat or vice versa. So she's not sticking to our arrangement. If I text her now 'also from what I remember our arrangement was that if u were out fri then we'd meet sat or vice versa, so now you're officially on probation until further notice' is this really going to win back some respect cos I feel she's treating me as if I'll come at her beck and call?
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
You know what to do and what not to do, but you do things that you know are wrong. Don't be overeager, and for god sakes make it seem like you have a life of your own and actually do things other than sit around waiting to hear back from her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.