"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is it over for me?

madddox

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Long story short, I had hung out with this girl a few times, she's 5 years older than I am, and I lied by telling her that I'm a year older then I actually am because I figured she'd think less of me. Nothing happend when we hung out due to me not having a backbone and trying out anything, but the more we did, the more I realized how much I like her and "connect" with her more than anyone.

I ended up telling her the other day that I hadn't been truthful about my age, I told her the real truth and I explained why I did it, and that I am sorry. Her initial response was "Are you worried about me thinking of you differently?", I said "Yes. I like you a lot." and she then asked, "is it accurate of me to say we've been friends for a year now, maybe more?" I said that was accurate, and she said "Okay what I mean is, we are cool and I appreciate you telling me:)"

was I wrong in saying "I like you a lot"?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FairShake

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You were "wronger" for hanging out with her for a year and never making a move.

I don't think there's anything wrong with telling a girl you like her. But if you only tell her and don't show her nothing will usually come of it.
 

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Sort of. You shouldn't be submitting to her the way you seem to be, if I read correctly. The best thing for you to do is to assume alpha male position, in a way.

You could drop off the face of the earth, you know? Not that doing that would be the best or only option, but it IS an option. Maybe she'd wonder what happened to you and realize that you're not to be taken for granted. I can't exactly tell you what to do without turning you into a conforming twit, so just go out there and do sh!t so you can learn what to do next time.
 

madddox

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FairShake said:
You were "wronger" for hanging out with her for a year and never making a move.

I don't think there's anything wrong with telling a girl you like her. But if you only tell her and don't show her nothing will usually come of it.
Thanks,
I agree.
 
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