"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is it okay to show you are upset when she denies sex

Colinski282

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After 6 months and my g/f hopping on birthcontrol her sex drive isnt what it used to be. Sometimes now she wont even give it up and when she does that it really starts to bother me cuz then i feel rejected and what not. What is the proper way to handle this situation? And would it help her sex drive if i stopped coming on to her first because she has pulled this sh!t more than once lately.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How exactly do you let her know you want sex? Personally, I never say a word, I just start playing with her hair, touching her neck, stroking her body and kissing, and before long she jumps me.

If she's pushing you off when you try this, then I'm afraid it may be time to reconsider your relationship. A relationship without sex, or at least some intimacy, is basically a friendship. I know this is going to seem harsh, but it sounds like you have become her platonic boyfriend. She probably cares about you, enjoys your company, but doesn't feel the sexual chemistry with you any more.

I say this because I've pulled many girls from relationships exactly like this and revived their so-called low sex drives without much effort. I could be wrong and there could be a genuine medical reason for her low sex drive, but you may need to reconsider your options before she does.

However, before making any rash decisions, try talking to her about it and tell her your thoughts.
 

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Maybe you should think of getting her off the birth control. In any event, I would be pretty skeptical of that claim. I know a lot of girls on BC and that's not usually one of the side effects mentioned. Are you sure there's not something else going on? Like another guy's d*ck in her?
 

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Jariel i have reconsidered my relationship with her but i will not make any harsh moves yet. I have discussed it with her and she said it makes her feel thats all the relationship is about when i wanna fvck "all the time". I explained that i have a physcial desire that i require to be fullfilled in this relationship and for her to act in such ways makes me feel as if I was not desirable to her.

If she feels like i want it all the time, and i kinda do cause shes a lil blonde bombshell... then would an effective method be to lay off the physical aspect till she wants it real bad? (I am quite touchy on her sometimes, do you have any otehr tactics to use on her?)
 

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Do things with her where you cannot have sex, (ie take her out places) that way you will show her that you genuinely enjoy her company, its just a balance issue, you can't just **** all the time if you want to have a real relationship with her.

--Mission
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im with my girl 6 months on the dot aswell... she still wants to have sex all the time. I use that as a guage on interest level. I would have a serious talk with her and let her know that this is a big problem and its going to get worse unless something is done about it.
 

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it's never a good sign when the sex dries up 6 months into a relationship. Run away. Seriously.

A woman that doesn't understand or give a damn about the importance of sex in a relationship, is not a woman worth having.
 

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Hey Colinski,

You have to make your girl CRAVE sex. She has to WANT the sex.

To achieve this, read DD's Sex Secrets.

Tease to Please is how you do it.

TEASE TEASE TEASE!

And then TEASE some more. You have to have CONTROL! Control your desires. Make her be the one that wants to have sex all the time.

Get my drift?

Good Luck!

:up:
 

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Ask her to get off the birthcontrol's and you start using a condom (maybe her hormones are out of whack because of it). Its better to get plenty of sex while being wrapped in a tire then get almost none while going bareback.

If that still doesn't recharge her sexual urge then dump her and go find someone else.

DJD
 

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B-Lemond said:
Hey Colinski,

You have to make your girl CRAVE sex. She has to WANT the sex.

To achieve this, read DD's Sex Secrets.

Tease to Please is how you do it.

TEASE TEASE TEASE!

And then TEASE some more. You have to have CONTROL! Control your desires. Make her be the one that wants to have sex all the time.

Get my drift?

Good Luck!

:up:
I realize and am aware that if this is not taken care of the relationship is doomed. With that said i need to take matters into my own hands and make something happen. Where can i find DD's Sex secrets and some other tease guides.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Colinski282 said:
I realize and am aware that if this is not taken care of the relationship is doomed. With that said i need to take matters into my own hands and make something happen. Where can i find DD's Sex secrets and some other tease guides.
*cough*eMule*cough*

excuse me...
 

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Here's a thought:

Why not jack your load on her face/hair every night? Tell her "that's good enough for you ya skank" then roll over and go to sleep with a big smile.

Guys give waaay too much thought to always how she's going to feel. I had that problem long ago. Now if any of them aren't in the mood or try and throw up a b!tch test or dangle the pvssy in front of me I jet and head to another where tail is welcumed.

B!tch is then on the back burner and has to prove herself back to the heirarchy.
 
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She has been horing with you for six months and now she doesn't want to be your hor but only when she wants to!!!! huh??? Who cares about her sex drive - that is not the point - all she has to do is open her legs -- it is your penis that needs to get hard and not hers!!!! It is the man's sex drive that matters - if IT is hard then IT is going to happen - if IT doesn't get hard then IT is impossible to happen!!!

This may be a strong sign that she is sexing other dudes!!!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
She has been horing with you for six months and now she doesn't want to be you hor but only when she wants to!!!! huh??? Who cares about her sex drive - that is not the point - all she has to do is open her legs -- it is your penis that needs to get hard and not hers!!!! It is the man's sex drive that matters - if IT is hard then IT is going to happen - if IT doesn't get hard then IT is impossible to happen!!!
Yeah! Screw consentual sex!

If the only reason you have sex is to get yourself off you may as well go back to masturbation.

How long has she been on the pill bro? Its not uncommon for sex drives to take a dive for a month or so, but they usually come firing back after that. At least her breasts might increase in size, my girlfriends went up a whole cup.
 
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Chillisauce said:
Yeah! Screw consentual sex!

If the only reason you have sex is to get yourself off you may as well go back to masturbation..
You are obviously of the homo / hor feminist generation to have such a view!!! Turn off the TV and quit being brainwashed and emasculated!!!!

This hor has been consenting for six months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now he has to ask for permission?????????? You have been emasculated to take such a position!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Colinski282 said:
I have discussed it with her and she said it makes her feel thats all the relationship is about when i wanna fvck "all the time". I explained that i have a physcial desire that i require to be fullfilled in this relationship and for her to act in such ways makes me feel as if I was not desirable to her.
Having a logical discussion as to why you want to fvck the chick. :eek: Yeah thats gonna work.

Are you stoned? Whats wrong with you man?

And to answer your question . No you DO NOT get angry with her, you immediately find someone who enjoys getting banged by you, your primary now becomes an outsider.

Trying to work around HER REALITY to get some play? I've never heard such nonsense.
 

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Women react differently to the pill. Some will lose their sex drive the whole time they use it. The best you can do then is just to quit the pill and go back to condoms.
 

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The way i see this situation is that u just jump on her etc,i think u should concentrate on foreplay,kissing,teasing .Express yourself with body language/actions not with words.Female sex drive is not an on/off switch like ours.

If you want to get the ball back to your court fire her up pretty good (may take 20+ mins of foreplay etc) and then just stop,rinse and repeat.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
all she has to do is open her legs -- it is your penis that needs to get hard and not hers!!!! It is the man's sex drive that matters - if IT is hard then IT is going to happen - if IT doesn't get hard then IT is impossible to happen!!!
This isn't true and makes me think you have never had sex...or have been doing it painfully wrong.
 

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Friendly Otter said:
Women react differently to the pill. Some will lose their sex drive the whole time they use it. The best you can do then is just to quit the pill and go back to condoms.

She can have sex regardless of her drive. Because he wants to. Maybe not every time but leaving him hanging all the time is wrong.

I'm sure he does a lot of stuff for her he doesn't really want to do.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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