Is it okay to go along with getting played by a stipper?

[zanderrrrr]

Guess I'll start this from the beginning.

1st night
Had my 25th birthday a while back, i hate my birthdays as they usually blow so i decided that i would have fun and spontaneously said **** it and went to a strip club by myself for for the first time (very out of character for me). My only goal for that night was just to have fun, so i got a few dances from a very good looking girl that helped calm my nerves from being in a strip club for the first time (i don't always feel comfortable in crowds or social settings) so that was good. Then later that night a young 21(ish) girl approached me to make small talk and flirt ect (i just turned 25 btw) her stage name is Rose so we talked, i told her about this being my first time in a strip club and she said it was her first night working as a stripper and that she started doing it now that she had broken up with her bf who was against it. So i asked Rose questions about how her first night was and how being a stripper was ect ... the conversation went well she was very nice and just the right amount of flirty i thought, then I did 2 dances with Rose that went well she thanked me for being nice as she said she had already ran into some jerks on her first night (have to admit that I felt bad for her after hearing that) I paid for my dances and tipped her $20 (so $60 total). After that I did one more dance with another girl and that was the end of my night.

2nd night
Then two weeks later i went back to the same club on a Saturday night just like last time and saw Rose again. Just like before she came up to chat and flirt with me, said she was happy to see me and we chatted about our own lives for about 15 or so minutes stuff like her pet dog her starting school soon my job ect ... she gave me compliments for being nice and a cute young guy, then she asks if I wanted a dance which I did and got a 15 minute dance with her because I wanted to. the dance was good and she was very nice again both during the dance and our conversation, during the dance I told Rose she could kiss my neck if she wanted to which she did and she let me kiss her neck as well, Rose even went about 2 minutes over the 15 minutes, i said she didn't need to do that but she replied "its okay I like you". When the dance was over she insisted on getting a hug then i paid Rose and tipped $20 again ($100 total this time). then she caught me off guard by offering me her number "so I can tell you the nights I work" was what she said, I knew right away that this wasn't for possible dating or hanging out but was just part of the hustle I guess you would call it, but I agreed to exchange digits because in the moment I was fine with going back to the club just to see Rose again because I did have a good time with her and enjoyed myself.

text message
that night was two days ago, she has texted me once so far "hey Zander <3 glad i got to see you the other day. hope to see you again soon " I haven't replied and didn't really plan to, I'm expecting her next text to be something along the lines of "hey I'll be at the club this Saturday night will I see you there too?"

At first when I gave Rose my number I was fine with the idea of just going along with this but now that I have thought about it more it seems kind of pathetic to let a stripper play me like that, or maybe I'm just being critical of myself about being someone that spends too much time at strip clubs. If i do continue to go its not something I plan to do on a weekly basis, just 2, 3 at the very most times a month if that.

I'm kind of just interested in other peoples opinions to be honest and thanks for any comments.

 

[jaymbrs]

This reads like a business transaction took place. You only got played if you're not enjoying what you're paying for and you're not going broke over it. I wouldn't expect anything more from this girl other than to let you know when she's working. Strippers are the ultimate hustlers. They latch on to the guy who continually over pays (you) and keeps them coming back for more.

 

[17 shots]

I wouldnt say she's playing you, I mean you did what you wanted with your money. Invite her to hang out, and smash her. You've already invested, and probably helped her pay some bills, so she should be ready to give it up for free. If you're gonna bang strippers, then bang strippers

If she won't hang out with you for free and give you some after you've invested, then yea she doesn't really like you

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Guess I'll start this from the beginning.

1st night
Had my 25th birthday a while back, i hate my birthdays as they usually blow so i decided that i would have fun and spontaneously said **** it and went to a strip club by myself for for the first time (very out of character for me). My only goal for that night was just to have fun, so i got a few dances from a very good looking girl that helped calm my nerves from being in a strip club for the first time (i don't always feel comfortable in crowds or social settings) so that was good. Then later that night a young 21(ish) girl approached me to make small talk and flirt ect (i just turned 25 btw) her stage name is Rose so we talked, i told her about this being my first time in a strip club and she said it was her first night working as a stripper and that she started doing it now that she had broken up with her bf who was against it. So i asked Rose questions about how her first night was and how being a stripper was ect ... the conversation went well she was very nice and just the right amount of flirty i thought, then I did 2 dances with Rose that went well she thanked me for being nice as she said she had already ran into some jerks on her first night (have to admit that I felt bad for her after hearing that) I paid for my dances and tipped her $20 (so $60 total). After that I did one more dance with another girl and that was the end of my night.

2nd night
Then two weeks later i went back to the same club on a Saturday night just like last time and saw Rose again. Just like before she came up to chat and flirt with me, said she was happy to see me and we chatted about our own lives for about 15 or so minutes stuff like her pet dog her starting school soon my job ect ... she gave me compliments for being nice and a cute young guy, then she asks if I wanted a dance which I did and got a 15 minute dance with her because I wanted to. the dance was good and she was very nice again both during the dance and our conversation, during the dance I told Rose she could kiss my neck if she wanted to which she did and she let me kiss her neck as well, Rose even went about 2 minutes over the 15 minutes, i said she didn't need to do that but she replied "its okay I like you". When the dance was over she insisted on getting a hug then i paid Rose and tipped $20 again ($100 total this time). then she caught me off guard by offering me her number "so I can tell you the nights I work" was what she said, I knew right away that this wasn't for possible dating or hanging out but was just part of the hustle I guess you would call it, but I agreed to exchange digits because in the moment I was fine with going back to the club just to see Rose again because I did have a good time with her and enjoyed myself.

text message
that night was two days ago, she has texted me once so far "hey Zander <3 glad i got to see you the other day. hope to see you again soon " I haven't replied and didn't really plan to, I'm expecting her next text to be something along the lines of "hey I'll be at the club this Saturday night will I see you there too?"

At first when I gave Rose my number I was fine with the idea of just going along with this but now that I have thought about it more it seems kind of pathetic to let a stripper play me like that, or maybe I'm just being critical of myself about being someone that spends too much time at strip clubs. If i do continue to go its not something I plan to do on a weekly basis, just 2, 3 at the very most times a month if that.

I'm kind of just interested in other peoples opinions to be honest and thanks for any comments.

Ive banged them, no big deal. Strip club Waitresses are easier and more appreciative of a boyfriend. You framed yourself as customer once you gave her your money. $20's and lap dance are a no no. You can throw a few $1 without hurting yourself.