"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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is it ok to say this to a girl?

aix237

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this girl comes over a lot cause my roomate is bangin her best friend. i suspect she knows i like her cause i flirt quite often. Im thinking about saying
me: you cant come over anymore"
her:why not?
me: cause i like you and evertyime your over i try hard not to kiss you.

any other variations you can think of?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Snowman23

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That might've been cute when you were 17. But at 27 that's the best you can come up with?
 

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no that's not good.

that's basically asking to kiss her which never works.

give more info so we can come up with a solution for you.
 

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Snowman23 said:
That might've been cute when you were 17. But at 27 that's the best you can come up with?
No, believe me, it's not cute at 17 either. In fact, it is just plain stupid.

My advice to the OP would be to keep flirtin' and wait for a good chance to kiss. Does she even give any IOI's back to you?
 

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LOL u should have tried:

me: you cant come over anymore
her:why not?
me: cause you like me so much that every time your over you try so hard not to kiss me that it makes me uncomfortable :D

Better???
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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aix237 said:
this girl comes over a lot cause my roomate is bangin her best friend. i suspect she knows i like her cause i flirt quite often. Im thinking about saying
me: you cant come over anymore"
her:why not?
me: cause i like you and evertyime your over i try hard not to kiss you.

any other variations you can think of?
136 posts is a lot of posts to still be demonstrating that you haven't read (or paid attention to, whichever the case may be) the DJ bible.
 

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Avn_0903 said:
LOL u should have tried:

me: you cant come over anymore
her:why not?
me: cause you like me so much that every time your over you try so hard not to kiss me that it makes me uncomfortable :D

Better???
better, but if she's been coming over a lot, mine would go like this:

me: you can't come over anymore
her: why not?
me: because we haven't f***** yet, and I'm uncomfortable maintaining any kind of relationship or friendship with a woman I'm not being intimate with.
 

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aix237 said:
this girl comes over a lot cause my roomate is bangin her best friend. i suspect she knows i like her cause i flirt quite often. Im thinking about saying
me: you cant come over anymore"
her:why not?
me: cause i like you and evertyime your over i try hard not to kiss you.

any other variations you can think of?
Why is she coming over? What does she have to do with your roomate if he is sleeping with her best friend? I wouldn't go over to a girl's house my buddy is banging unless she had a friend for me.
 

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the girls are best friends and she knows all my roomates
 

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"I like you" just sounds cheesy in general, I never say that, even in my most AFC of moments. Drop it from your vocabulary, and start saying things like "I dig hanging out with you" or "We have a good time together"

Let her guess as to what you really mean when by saying something that could be taken either way, girls love trying to figure that stuff out.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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good lord. just ask her to come hang out sometime. christ on a crutch. say that crap if you want to and watch her run.
 

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listen, you gotta be aggressive but in a smooth way
this is a perfect chance, two girls, two men(hope so)
get them both over and watch a movie, have a few drinks aswell. the girl you trying to hit up doesnt want to be left aside so she wants to feel WANTED, this is your cue, to step in. so get the four of you together, talk to her, apply some kino, put your arm around her during the movie,incrase the moment.

girls are insecure, and this is why double dates are so much more successful. girls dont want to be left out. if their friends getting some, they want some too!

and actions over WORDS. ACTIONS, OVER. WORDS
meaning, you dont ASK to kiss her, you KISS HER! when you think you got her comfortable enough, and you guys look at each other, lean in 60 percent. then stop, let her lean the other way, if you have to wait. then wait until she moves in the other 40. then boom kiss

its like baseball. you gotta go through first base before you get to the second base.
get her comfortable. apply some kino,
kiss.
then fuk, then repeat the next night.
when i say aggressive, i dont mean forcing a kiss or making her feel unease, be smooth as possible. if shes sitting beside you and moving aorund to get comfortable, step in and say "here, let me get you comfortable" then this is your cue to GRAB her and hug her

good luck mate
 
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nothing will work for this guy, because he has shown us that he has ZERO inner game, he needs to work on that and start acting and sounding like a playa before creeping the girl out
 

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positivity -dude guarantee i have boned girls you will never have a shot at. ive never been in this situation before cause usually its not this hard. I know who i am what i am and this girl is just different from girls i have encountered.
 
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aix237 said:
me: you cant come over anymore"
her:why not?
me: cause i like you and evertyime your over i try hard not to kiss you.
you thinking that that is a normal thing to say to a woman at the age of 27 tells me that you are very inexperienced, why are you lying in your above post???

EDIT: im trying to actually help you here, a don juan wouldnt need to ask this kind of question on the internet, think about it!

no amount of advice you get here will work, because you will still give off a creepy vibe when delivering what ever line that you want to deliver

you need to work on yourself and get out there and experience women many many times, and such a silly thought as in your initial post will never EVER pop into your head again - instead, you'll be fvcking that girl and you'll be posting a Lay Report about it instead!!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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positivity_injection said:
you thinking that that is a normal thing to say to a woman at the age of 27 tells me that you are very inexperienced, why are you lying in your above post???

EDIT: im trying to actually help you here, a don juan wouldnt need to ask this kind of question on the internet, think about it!

no amount of advice you get here will work, because you will still give off a creepy vibe when delivering what ever line that you want to deliver

you need to work on yourself and get out there and experience women many many times, and such a silly thought as in your initial post will never EVER pop into your head again - instead, you'll be fvcking that girl and you'll be posting a Lay Report about it instead!!!

Hahahahahaha! I totally agree !:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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This one is simple. If your roomie and the girl are one couch and the only place for her to sit is with you on a loveseat while "watching a movie" it would only be natural for you guys to pair up, there's even a scientific term for this.. dydiac primacy (check sp). Otherwise, jsut invite her over to hang out when the roomie is gone, pop in a movie, make the apartment about 30 below zero, offer to share your blanket and fvck her and get it over with. Arrange your apartment for fvcking by making there only one place to sit (a single couch) or one couch and one loveseat if your roomie is there with his girl alot. Until recently the only place to sit in my entire apt. was my bed, not even a damn chair in the place, just a bed infront of a TV.
 

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of course u can..
but it just depends on how and how u follow up with
u cant just say something like that and expect to turn her on...but u can say it in a cool indifferent way and then she'll probably be all quiet or laugh then u sweek talk and compliment a little more (genuinine complementing) then most importantly escalate->kino->escalate more-> and when the moment is right dont hesitate and KISS HER!
 

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Even I know this crap doesn't work. Alpha males take initiative. It won't always work, but assume the positive. When in doubt, get her more attracted.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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