"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is it ok to initiate conversation with total stranger?

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Am I crazy talking to strangers?

Like making conversation with a girl waiting for bus?

It seems There is usually a heavy silence after very energic first few minutes of conversation, so
Is it ok if I start openning new topics to avoid silence, I'm one of those guys that can talk a lot, if given opportunity?

Is it Ok if I'm content with just making convesation, and not so much interested in getting her number?

From the South Indian background I come from, this kind of behavior is seen as crazy, and even one of the workshop I'm participating about shyness are advicing against approaching total stranger, so whats your guys verdict from this forum?

I'm a very shy person, it was even tough just making eye contact with girls six months ago, but I have vowed to change and I hope I can follow up with the promise I made to myself...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There is nothing wrong with talking to stranger.That's how you meet people. If you're on a bus, then say something like "It's really crowded in here" or "something stink in here" or "This bus is really slow". Say anything that have to do with the bus, a weird looking person, the person you're talking to, the whether.

I had problems with talking to stranger a couple years ago until I came across this site. I have a problem of can't think or know what to say sometime, but I do talk to a lot of strangers.

The problem with me is that I can start a conversation to average looking chicks, but I can't start a conversation with an HB that I am interested in.
 

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This is exactly whats going on with me!!

Nox said:
There is nothing wrong with talking to stranger.That's how you meet people. If you're on a bus, then say something like "It's really crowded in here" or "something stink in here" or "This bus is really slow". Say anything that have to do with the bus, a weird looking person, the person you're talking to, the whether.

I had problems with talking to stranger a couple years ago until I came across this site. I have a problem of can't think or know what to say sometime, but I do talk to a lot of strangers.

The problem with me is that I can start a conversation to average looking chicks, but I can't start a conversation with an HB that I am interested in.
I usually know my target from the crowd but usually I chicken out against white chicks compared to chinese, who seemed to be easiest to get along with.

I understand its a slow process, and once I master conversation skill, I know I will have enough confidence to talk to white chicks, but for now I'm just trying to keep myself busy by getting myself involved in as many situation as possible like joinning Gymnasium, French club, conversation club, once I Understand psychy behind woman thinking, I'm sure I'll change my personality to accomodate any girl out there, its all about confidence, and I'm building that up big time.
 

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you can talk to people anywhere anytime

male or female.

people actually like it when someone takes interest in being nice and talking.

sometimes u might get a woman who is wierded out..but thats rare
 

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Its like already been said before!!

frivolousz21 said:
you can talk to people anywhere anytime

male or female.

people actually like it when someone takes interest in being nice and talking.

sometimes u might get a woman who is wierded out..but thats rare

For so many years only people I associated who talk to strangers were begger, but after coming to this board I am able to see the whole new perspective on life, and posibillities that might openup talking to stranger without any agenda, but to be frank this is still really hard, mostly because all of the people I know think its crazy, and I have to defend myself there.

Why does it have to be this hard, on this board its perfectly normal to talk to strangers while all the people that I do know think its crazy, why couldn't it come easy for me...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Canadien said:
For so many years only people I associated who talk to strangers were begger, but after coming to this board I am able to see the whole new perspective on life, and posibillities that might openup talking to stranger without any agenda, but to be frank this is still really hard, mostly because all of the people I know think its crazy, and I have to defend myself there.

Why does it have to be this hard, on this board its perfectly normal to talk to strangers while all the people that I do know think its crazy, why couldn't it come easy for me...

it only takes a few min for a spark if that...

it could be in a line at walmart, it might be the casheir, it might be someone in an isle..might be walking to your car, might be at the gas station, or book store, or mall.
 

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Canadien said:
Am I crazy talking to strangers?

Like making conversation with a girl waiting for bus?

It seems There is usually a heavy silence after very energic first few minutes of conversation, so
Is it ok if I start openning new topics to avoid silence, I'm one of those guys that can talk a lot, if given opportunity?

Is it Ok if I'm content with just making convesation, and not so much interested in getting her number?

From the South Indian background I come from, this kind of behavior is seen as crazy, and even one of the workshop I'm participating about shyness are advicing against approaching total stranger, so whats your guys verdict from this forum?

I'm a very shy person, it was even tough just making eye contact with girls six months ago, but I have vowed to change and I hope I can follow up with the promise I made to myself...

Dude go read the DJ Bible RIGHT NOW !!!!!
 
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