The Immortal
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can you meet girls if you go alone to a club or will the weird factor be too much?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
is it ok to go to a club alone?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dice52987
Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/friday.htm
Read that.
I will also say this. The thing that will determine the "weird factor" will be your attitude. If you look nervous about being alone, the ladies will pick up on this, label you a creep, and keep their distance. Go in there with the attitude of "I don't give a fvck what anyone thinks about me. I'm here to have fun." If people ask you why you're alone, just say something like "I'm waiting for my friends." Just make sure you're in there having fun, not caring, and doing the damn thing.
Read that.
I will also say this. The thing that will determine the "weird factor" will be your attitude. If you look nervous about being alone, the ladies will pick up on this, label you a creep, and keep their distance. Go in there with the attitude of "I don't give a fvck what anyone thinks about me. I'm here to have fun." If people ask you why you're alone, just say something like "I'm waiting for my friends." Just make sure you're in there having fun, not caring, and doing the damn thing.
Young Juan
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Yes.
You'll eventually find out its one of the best options if you don't know someone who is better or at least as equally good with women. The fact that your asking this question tells me that you'd be uncomfortable leading the pack, in which case, you'd pretty much be working on your own anyways. If you bring a wing with no game, it could be a crippler rather than a crutch and/or any help. If he's not down to take one for the team or can't entertain an ugg, than be sure he can at least be your designated driver.
Other thing about rolling solo: it gets you into the habit of being the leader and counting on yourself.
You'll eventually find out its one of the best options if you don't know someone who is better or at least as equally good with women. The fact that your asking this question tells me that you'd be uncomfortable leading the pack, in which case, you'd pretty much be working on your own anyways. If you bring a wing with no game, it could be a crippler rather than a crutch and/or any help. If he's not down to take one for the team or can't entertain an ugg, than be sure he can at least be your designated driver.
Other thing about rolling solo: it gets you into the habit of being the leader and counting on yourself.
When I go to clubs I tend to drift away from my friends, and so I end up looking like I'm alone when I talk to people.
Most guys who go to clubs, however, have that "I'm going to a club alone and I'm scared" vibe when they arrive. If you're 100% there to have a great time, then by all means, go for it. Anything less is tough though.
On the other hand, I'd ask, why go to a club if you're not there to 100% have fun? Guys to go to clubs just to pickup a girl reek of desperation.
Most guys who go to clubs, however, have that "I'm going to a club alone and I'm scared" vibe when they arrive. If you're 100% there to have a great time, then by all means, go for it. Anything less is tough though.
On the other hand, I'd ask, why go to a club if you're not there to 100% have fun? Guys to go to clubs just to pickup a girl reek of desperation.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I have to ask this: Why are you contemplating going to a club alone? I know you wrote "to meet girls", but why aren't you going with friends? As somebody wrote above, guys who go to clubs alone reek of desperation. It definately gives of a "sad-creeper" vibe. Therefore, I advise against it. Besides, going to clubs should be about getting drunk and having a good time with your buddies, and getting girls should be a by-product of that. (At least, that's how it has always been for me; I got laid the most when I was just out having fun, rather than being on the prowl.)
mix_master
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Yes. No.
Most guys that are scared to go to the club alone have no game. They need the comfort of their friends to have fun in that type of social setting. When I go to the club my goal is to meet as many females as i can. why would i need any friends for that? A real man creates his own social value and doesn't need any friends to co-sign. Peace
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.