is it OK to confront girl and ask her IL/how she feels?

[isotope]

i've been going out with this girl for over a month, and lately we are spending less and less time together.
she often doesnt return my calls for several days, and sometimes not at all. and i get the feeling that her IL is low and we may be fizzling out.
and lately it is ALWAYS me suggesting that we hang out, never her.

but the complication is that she works 6 and 7 days a week and she works late, so when she gives me excuses not to go out, I cant tell if she is genuinely tired from working (i would be) or if she is blowing me off. And when we do talk, she smiles and is relatively nice, so i cant tell. This girl is really cryptic with her emotions, like the sphinx.

So I know some of you will say "NEXT her" but weve been going out for a month and it was GREAT at first, so i dont wanna toss her away unless she really has no interest.

and I would assume that after over month, she would at least have the courtesy to actually "break up" with me... wouldnt she? Or do some girls just start ignoring you to get rid of you, even that far into a relationship?

so my QUESTION is: advice?
whats the best way to ask her if she's still interested in dating, or if she is blowing me off ?
Is it a good idea to ask this?
How should i do it so that i dont seem whiny or insecure, in case she is just busy but still interested?

and the reason that i want to know is so that i can start dating other people. You see she and I agreed to be 'exclusive' like 2 weeks into the relationship. that's another reason why i think she owes it to me to officially "break up" with me if thats what she wants.

 

[BigMike]

Originally posted by isotope
i've been going out with this girl for over a month, and lately we are spending less and less time together.
she often doesnt return my calls for several days, and sometimes not at all. and i get the feeling that her IL is low and we may be fizzling out.
and lately it is ALWAYS me suggesting that we hang out, never her.

I'd say to simply not worry about it. Just enjoy the time you have with her and spend time doing your own stuff.

She may be tired or possibly doing what we are taught to do to girls. BEING A CHALLENGE. Sure seems to be upping you IL by not giving you the time of day.

 

[ezilonman]

isotope

me and you are in the same boat. Both our girls have become more distant and aloof yet when we do interact with them they give us the buying signs.

My girls excuses could be legit... how can I get mad when she helps out mentally retarded children and then she apologizes for it?

Or they could be a front. A front for what? Playing hard to get? Attention *****? Lost Interest?

idk what to do besides just "keep on keeping on"

that may be all we should do.

 

[Kuen1]

Do not be the guy that keeps calling and calling. In other words...don't be a chump. I know because I used to be that guy. How hard is it for her to return a call? She is disrespecting you and blowing you off. Stand up for yourself and move on. There are plenty of women out there. Don't waste your time/life chasing after a female that does not even take the time to return a simple phone call. Life is too short, man. Move on and find a woman that treats you right.

 

[isotope]

thank you Kuen you are right, thanks for putting it that way