"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it normal to want to stick it to your friends?

onthepath

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man i hate my friends sometimes

i have a group of friends, and there's been a bit of a division, the alpha types lead and i (and other betas follow)

now i've been turning things around, firstly concentrating on me

so my job is much better (much better :crazy: ) my value as percieved by others outside the group (especially new people we meet) is getting much better

however...i still have these insecure feeligns and want to sometimes stick it to them, by saying oh btw check out this payslip b!tches, or look what i just bought :eek:

so my question is, is this normal? have you got any tips for sticking it to them ;) or what can i do to resolve it

thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ViciousDADogg

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It's normal for your type of situation. You don't have true friends.. Those aren't friends at all, rather a social umbrella you like to use for cover. Acquitances.


If you have true friends, which is rather rare, you don't care about this none sense.
 

jamesbell953

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It also seems like you're still pretty insecure. Like you need to validate who you are as a person by how much money you make.

Get you're inner game down, and you won't need external validation anymore. Like you said, keep concentrating on yourself until the urge to one-up your "buddies" doesn't even cross your mind.
 

Alphamale1821

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your just a follower most alpha/leaders aren't tight with followers they just simply lead you around and have you do shiit for them. Work on getting your confidence up so you can become a leader.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Obsidian

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To cure your ills, I prescribe an apple a day and a healthy dose of the Book of Pook.
 

Cremasta

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It can be hard when you realise that the people you either looked up to (or lead you around) are d!ckheads. Let them go do their thing, you go do yours.

jamesbell953 is right... work on yourself until you realise that you don't need to prove yourself better than them, because it just won't be necessary.
 
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