Is it normal to have sex with girl you just meet

[donnyjondeppjuando]

So at a nightclub when a girl talks to you is this because

1. SHe just want to chat u look fun

2. She want to chat with a view to sex you look cute

3. She want to chat with a view to maybe get to know you then one day have sex cause you look cute


Why would a girl talk to you in a club, I proposed above 3 reasons?

Is it normal to have sex the same night you meet a girl in a nightclub? Or do they just want your phone number and to get to know you etc?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Sometimes girls chat for fun. Sometimes they're looking for a night of sex. Sometimes they're looking for more than sex.

Is it normal to pull a one night stand? Well, yeah, it happens.

Or do they just want your number? Yeah....sometimes.

 

[donnyjondeppjuando]

Sometimes girls chat for fun. Sometimes they're looking for a night of sex. Sometimes they're looking for more than sex.

Is it normal to pull a one night stand? Well, yeah, it happens.

Or do they just want your number? Yeah....sometimes.

Well I mean when do you bring sex up? Is it ok?

I dont wanna come across like some weirdo rpaist if I start talking or trying to get sex with a girl I just met.

If this aint normal?

 

[jafyk]

First and foremost from the type of question you are asking it SEEMS that you are new here or new to all this. So, I would suggest you go find the DJ bible on this SS Forum and look up the book of Pook. Read and you will see why this question you are asking pales in comparison to what you need to know.
Anyway, about your question. It is normal to have sex with a girl the first time you meet her. It may or may not give you an idea on the type of girl she is. I say it's normal because people do it all the time. Now, having sex with a girl you've just met is not as common as the opposite of that. What matters is that when you meet a girl you should convey sexual interest in her without through your interaction with her (what you say, how you say it, your body language, kino etc). If 1) her aim for the night is to have sex that night and you are able to increase her interest level then chances are that it's going to happen. (2) She could just be trying to meet someone for the long run. In which case if you make a direct statement that overtly implies you want her for sex it might turn her off. It's really in the how of your communication with her (3) Although her intentions maybe #2 above still thru your interaction with her she could do something with you that night (4) she might just be trying to get your number as some sort of trophy.
With girls thing can happen fast or just change without a warning. Take for example. Thursday night I wasn't even thinking about going out. I ran into a friend he invited me out to the club. I was just sitting there and I saw this girl. she looked at me I smiled at her and told her to come over.I pulled her towards me so she was standing in between my legs I had my arms around her and started talking to her. She later told me had to go. We exchanged #s then she left (This all happened within 5-7mins). I texted her about dancing. She came back later and took me to the dance floor (My friends were looking at me with envy). We danced and even kissed but she didn't come home with me because of she had to find her friends etc. (Initially when things happen almost effortlessly like that I'm thinking yeah I'm hitting that tonight but it didn't happen like that). I contacted her Friday and it took her Saturday morning to get back to me. Anyway, my point is with girls things are not always what they seem.

 

[jafyk]

First and foremost from the type of question you are asking it SEEMS that you are new here or new to all this. So, I would suggest you go find the DJ bible on this SS Forum and look up the book of Pook. Read and you will see why this question you are asking pales in comparison to what you need to know.
Anyway, about your question. It is normal to have sex with a girl the first time you meet her. It may or may not give you an idea on the type of girl she is. I say it's normal because people do it all the time. Now, having sex with a girl you've just met is not as common as the opposite of that. What matters is that when you meet a girl you should convey sexual interest in her without through your interaction with her (what you say, how you say it, your body language, kino etc). If 1) her aim for the night is to have sex that night and you are able to increase her interest level then chances are that it's going to happen. (2) She could just be trying to meet someone for the long run. In which case if you make a direct statement that overtly implies you want her for sex it might turn her off. It's really in the how of your communication with her (3) Although her intentions maybe #2 above still thru your interaction with her she could do something with you that night (4) she might just be trying to get your number as some sort of trophy.
With girls thing can happen fast or just change without a warning. Take for example. Thursday night I wasn't even thinking about going out. I ran into a friend he invited me out to the club. I was just sitting there and I saw this girl. she looked at me I smiled at her and told her to come over.I pulled her towards me so she was standing in between my legs I had my arms around her and started talking to her. She later told me had to go. We exchanged #s then she left (This all happened within 5-7mins). I texted her about dancing. She came back later and took me to the dance floor (My friends were looking at me with envy). We danced and even kissed but she didn't come home with me because of she had to find her friends etc. (Initially when things happen almost effortlessly like that I'm thinking yeah I'm hitting that tonight but it didn't happen like that). I contacted her Friday and it took her Saturday morning to get back to me. Anyway, my point is with girls things are not always what they seem.

 

[Tortendieb]

Why not try being open about wanting sex? If you feel she likes you, dance with her, touch her, afterwards why not be direct?

My experience is: if a girl comes to you, she doesn't ONLY want sex, as in right now, but she wants the whole experience. Some fluff talk, some flirting, some dancing, and then sex.

I know we guys just care about the sex but the girls always want the whole package... they want to have fun, and sex afterwards. That is what confused me for some time

 

[jafyk]

Tortendieb expand on your point. Make up an example.

 

[Tortendieb]

An example of how to be direct? Well if you're at the nightclub and a girl comes to you... I guess the important thing is to dance of course, and if that went well (=grinding and feeling) then just: "whoa that was hot! hey wanna go back to my place?"

I mean it's nothing special and no super awesome line, but if a girl wants to have sex with you that night then it's going to work The point of my post was to try and keep things simple if possible. I'm saying it because I feel I've confused myself with too much theory reading sosuave...

Also the "package deal" thing well that's just a theory that I made up

 

[donnyjondeppjuando]

An example of how to be direct? Well if you're at the nightclub and a girl comes to you... I guess the important thing is to dance of course, and if that went well (=grinding and feeling) then just: "whoa that was hot! hey wanna go back to my place?"

I mean it's nothing special and no super awesome line, but if a girl wants to have sex with you that night then it's going to work The point of my post was to try and keep things simple if possible. I'm saying it because I feel I've confused myself with too much theory reading sosuave...

Also the "package deal" thing well that's just a theory that I made up

I dotn dance FULL STOP!!! Really I dont dance. I have aspergers. Faking being social is a huge task...Dancing is just like asking a guy with no legs to breakdance. Mentally I can hardly even coordiante myself when walking, so dancing is not even an option.

 

[bigneil]

I find that if you have sex with a girl the first night, it sort of ruins the relationship. If she has been around, she will not have an emotional connection with you. Either that or you will lose respect for her. We can't appreciate things that come too easily. Plus you'll never trust her not to do it with the next guy she meets.

It's best to do it after a few romantic dates IMO, between the 3rd and 6th date or so - assuming you have lots of kissing and holding in the meantime.

That said, don't wait too long or she will start to think of you as a friend or a chump.

 

[jafyk]

An example of how to be direct? Well if you're at the nightclub and a girl comes to you... I guess the important thing is to dance of course, and if that went well (=grinding and feeling) then just: "whoa that was hot! hey wanna go back to my place?"

I mean it's nothing special and no super awesome line, but if a girl wants to have sex with you that night then it's going to work The point of my post was to try and keep things simple if possible. I'm saying it because I feel I've confused myself with too much theory reading sosuave...

Also the "package deal" thing well that's just a theory that I made up

Ok, well I think you are pretty much saying the same thing that I was saying. Notice how you didn't say "let's go have sex" By inviting her offer to your place after everything else has gone fine. It is assumed (in some cases understood) that sex is going to take place.

 

[donnyjondeppjuando]

I find that if you have sex with a girl the first night, it sort of ruins the relationship. If she has been around, she will not have an emotional connection with you. Either that or you will lose respect for her. We can't appreciate things that come too easily. Plus you'll never trust her not to do it with the next guy she meets.

It's best to do it after a few romantic dates IMO, between the 3rd and 6th date or so - assuming you have lots of kissing and holding in the meantime.

That said, don't wait too long or she will start to think of you as a friend or a chump.

But what if you just want quick easy sex not dating.

I really dont do dates.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

But what if you just want quick easy sex not dating.

I really dont do dates.

So, of all the responses people gave you here, NONE answers your original question?

 

[jafyk]

Well, somebody please read him his last rites, lol.