is it normal to feel fed up with the disappointment of girls flaking, how to deal?

[drift king]

i've been on so many dates this year that i'm at the end of my tether.. it's hard enough getting them to meet up without flaking let alone the dates going well that i'm just so fed up of trying to get girls. it's not fun anymore, the whole approach, the making date arrangements which fall through at the last minute due to little errors here and there.. it just doesn't seem worth it anymore for this feeling of disappointment.

it's hard not to suffer from 1itis when u don't have any options, my latest flake makes me feel so bad myself cos there's nothing i can do to get more options or spin more plates. i probably give off a desperate vibe but i cant help it.. this level of straight out rejection is too much for 1 person to take.. how do u guys deal with this?

i feel like not even bothering to do any more approaches or go on dates cos at some point im just going to be disappointed.. it's like im looking for a lucky break and not getting it. my heart can't deal with this bad feeling anymore

 

[slaog]

Take a break from it all and recharge your batteries. Everybody needs a break from it especially those starting out.


After the break you'll feel recharged and ready for battle again.

 

[drift king]

i did take a break.. not even self imposed. for about 6 weeks i had no dates nothing. i didnt' choose it to be that way.

i was already at the end of my tether there and then.. it just feels like you're helpless to stop it going badly. the worst part is today when after i make the call and confirmation, i feel nervous.. start predicting she'll flake cos she didn't sound 100% pleased. you hope she doesn't flake cos it's been confirmed 3 hours before.. then u get disappointment.. this feeling i can't cope with.. it makes me feel depressed. this is why i feel like packing it in cos i rather feel neutral rather than risk trying to be happy and just feel low cos i'll be disappointed.

is there any way to get more plates quickly so at least u have back up options?

 

[hover411]

bro,

i just got rejected for the 2nd time by an awesome chick. it was all my fault. it hurts pretty bad, and i'm just trying to stay busy and active. stay in the company of others until you get back in the right mood.

that's what i'm planning on doing anyways........

 

[drift king]

hey i've been rejected at least 50 times this year.. and to varying degrees.. sometimes it's prolonged.. i go on dates with them.. get to 2nd date. then it's over.

i lose them in between dates when using the phone is my only means of contact, when they flake i cant handle it and get depressed cos i blame myself for getting in that position again.. i don't even feel now getting laid is even worth the effort of having this disappointment looming.. i promised myself if these last 2 dont work out then im packing it in for a while but knowing me, im always drawn to a flame.. i need to start meeting ch1cks that dont flake.. where do u find them?

 

[verysuave]

The "REAL JERK" will coming out of you and the real "not needy" vibe after all these rejections instead of putting on a fake mask doing that mystery method crap.

You get burned out and the only thing these b1tches will see is the real you now. the REAL JERKish dude who got tired of this crap and is gona come out because ONLY NOW is when youwill really have that "I don't give a crap" attitude anymore.

You have finally awaken

 

[verysuave]

has a chick ever had a crush on you? like at work or at school?

 

[drift king]

no never. i've always had to work so hard to create attraction it's made me so weary. im irritated right now because the girl who flaked on me today is all over facebook posting commenting on pictures.. it makes me think wtf?? u said u were out with your friends leaving there and then.

i cant handle the disappointment. it makes me feel depressed and not want to try anymore. a man can only handle so much rejection before it becomes all too much. my confidence is shattered

 

[Igetit!]

hey i've been rejected at least 50 times this year.. and to varying degrees.. sometimes it's prolonged.. i go on dates with them.. get to 2nd date. then it's over.

i lose them in between dates when using the phone is my only means of contact, when they flake i cant handle it and get depressed cos i blame myself for getting in that position again.. i don't even feel now getting laid is even worth the effort of having this disappointment looming.. i promised myself if these last 2 dont work out then im packing it in for a while but knowing me, im always drawn to a flame.. i need to start meeting ch1cks that dont flake.. where do u find them?

Well,if every girl you come in contact with seems to be flaking,then maybe you want to check yourself,or that is,the way you interact with women to see if there is something you're doing that's causing this to happen. A couple of flakes every now and then is no big deal,but this thing you're talking about seems to be more of a symtom of something than just a random flake. If you've been racking your brain trying to figure out what's going on for a while,and still haven't come up with a solution yet,then give us an accurate,detailed account of your basic interaction with a girl so we can examine it to find out what the problem is.

 

[verysuave]

no never. i've always had to work so hard to create attraction it's made me so weary. im irritated right now because the girl who flaked on me today is all over facebook posting commenting on pictures.. it makes me think wtf?? u said u were out with your friends leaving there and then.

i cant handle the disappointment. it makes me feel depressed and not want to try anymore. a man can only handle so much rejection before it becomes all too much. my confidence is shattered

How are you in the looks department?

Do you use that mystery method PUA stuff?

pls answer,we are all just curious tnx