Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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WTID

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Announce they have a bf or husband in the first 5 minutes of a conversation, I've had it happen 3 x this week . One I definitely would not have hit upon, the other 2 I would.
What is it some defence, how do you deal with it, if you want to pursue .
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WTID said:
Announce they have a bf or husband in the first 5 minutes of a conversation, I've had it happen 3 x this week . One I definitely would not have hit upon, the other 2 I would.
What is it some defence, how do you deal with it, if you want to pursue .

Yes it's normal for chicks who have boyfriends and or husbands to announce they have boyfriends or husbands. :yes:

You then take the hint they do have a boyfriend or a husband or take the hint they aren't interested in you.

If you don't want to take the hint keep being a creeping aspie till they call the police. :yes:
 

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Very normal for when they're not interested or attracted or don't see enough value in you.

Case closed.
 

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Sometimes they do that when they actually are interested in you.

If you're just talking to a girl, like you would anyone else, and they see you as a suitable mate, they will tell you this. This way they can keep talking to you and not feel guilty about it.

But if you're hitting on them and they say that, sometimes it's just an easy way to let you down. Like bartenders and waitresses, they love using that line.

Either way, if that comes out of their mouth, why would you want to pursue?
 

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Was just wondering is it just something women have to do as they feel they are always about to get hit upon
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WTID said:
Was just wondering is it just something women have to do as they feel they are always about to get hit upon
Yes, pretty much.

If a woman says she's taken, it's pretty much "don't try to persue me", whether she was telling the truth or not. It's pretty much the textbook answer to give to a guy who you feel is hitting on you.
 

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I PREFER THIS!

I used to feel the same way as you until I met two girls who did not mention they had a boyfriend at all until I asked them out. I didn't know attention wh0res like that existed until I became more DJ-like (flirting, in better shape, dressing better). I know it's possible that they were attracted to me and looking to monkey-branch over, but I got super-pissed both times (didn't show it though) and just stopped talking to them.

It's WAYY better to find out up front than 2-3 weeks later when you've talked to them a few times.
 

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Yes.
 
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