Is it needy to offer to pay part of a woman's gas money to come see you?

[Deicide]

Hey, since I've been involved in the world of dating and game, a lot of lines blur between being needy and desperate. And other than the basic guidelines that we learned from this site, there's a lot to take to decide on that may or may not be needy.
Today's example. Been talking to a girl online. She tells me her family member wouldn't give her gas money to come see me. I just say that I might be able to pay part of her gas money. It wouldn't be much, and I just feel like I'd rather have someone over to bang instead of watching porn.(I didn't say that last sentence lol) Is this needy?

I don't feel a need to be with a certain girl. I just want to find multiple lovers to bang on a regular basis. Since I only have one, I feel like I'm missing out. So there may be a sense of desperation to get multiple lovers and build up the notches. Banging new women makes me feel good after all, and I'll be glad when I get another woman to bang beside the one I already have. But, I also need to realize I don't need a woman. Then there's that paradox of wanting it but not getting it, and needing to put in time, etc... you get the point. Confusing stuff, but the lines between needy and desperate aren't so clear to me anymore other than the usual stuff.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Yeah, I wouldn't do it.. but it's your life so whatever.

 

[bigneil]

Of course you pay her gas. She's spending time driving. Gas is $4 a gallon. IRS pays $.55 a mile.

 

[Deicide]

Yeah, I wouldn't do it.. but it's your life so whatever.

All she said was a one word response, I think I'll just go lift weights this evening instead.
Really, I wouldn't mind doing it as long as she didn't feel entitled or like I was lower than her doing it, which would mean I'm not getting laid. I will never be a woman's toy.
I'm also pretty poor now, so I don't have much money to give out. Wouldn't have enough money for an escort if I wanted it. lol

 

[bigneil]

I'm also pretty poor now, so I don't have much money to give out.

Not wanting to pay is your decision. But seriously, if you can't afford to pay for her gas you can't afford dating her. My Grandmother would be the first to tell you that. Get a job, or find a girl within walking distance.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Not wanting to pay is your decision. But seriously, if you can't afford to pay for her gas you can't afford dating her. My Grandmother would be the first to tell you that. Get a job, or find a girl within walking distance.

Whaaaaat

I'll buy her a few drinks. Maybe even an omelette in the morning. I'm not handing her a wad of cash for travel expenses. If it's reached that point, you're better off hiring a hooker.

 

[bigneil]

Like I said, not wanting to pay is ok. But not being able to afford it?

 

[FairShake]

Yes, it's ok to pay for her gas.

Players do this, trust me. Virgins on the other hand have never paid for the gas for some traveling pvssy.

 

[Deicide]

Everything's alright. This girl is still texting me and obviously wants to hang out, so I'll see what we can do.

 

[Robert28]

hell in my town you see girls driving guys everywhere. I'm starting to wonder if I'm the only dude in town with a vehicle.

 

[In2theGame]

If a guy asked a girl to pay his gas to come see her, he's a lazy slacking bum.

But if a girl asks a guy to pay for gas, he should be "a man" and help her out.

Bullshiat.

Take her out for a drink, sure.

But don't you DARE pay for her fvucking gas.

So much for an "equal society" huh?

Haha i was thinking the exact same thing in bold.

IMHO, if you have the cash and it wont hurt your wallet.. go ahead, pay the gas. if not but dont want to make it seem like your broke, say Ah man.. i just had to pay a load of bills but want you to come... See what she says and go from there.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Considering the fact that a hooker costs around $300 if it's a sure lay then for sure pay for the gas if she asks nicely, and honestly can't cover the expense herself. I know women generally don't make as much as men so the issue is not what she asks for, it's how she asks for it. If a girl is nice to me i'll help her out in any way I can. If she acts like she is entitled to it, she's lucky if I offer her a glass of water in my crib.

 

[Serg897]

You dont need to pay for anything. If a girl wants to see you she can pay for her own gas - she should be willing to not only do that but also drive in the rain, drop other things she is doing, etc.

 

[charlezz]

Reframe it.. if you can afford to pay for the gas, make her earn for it..

(In a playful funny manner) Asked her what can you expect after you pay for gas? Ask her to buy you lunch! Ask her to give you a back massage (your back is aching!)

Everytime a girl asked me to do something, I make sure to return something in a funny and playful manner. It doesn't have to be an equal 50/50 investment. So what if you may be spending more? No big deal.. Its not like you are taking care of her "everything"

Would you treat a male friend to an occasional dinner? If yes, do it.

But of course if you are paying for too much and the girl is not a "giver", I will drop her, if F-close is still too far away

 

[bigneil]

Make her dinner instead of taking her out and you can save the gas money.

 

[DonGorgon]

she must pay for your but you must never ay for hers.. the more a woman does for you the more she likes you..

 

[omega05]

If she was coming over to smash then I would. What's the difference between helping her with gas and calling her a cab to go home?

 

[corrector]

I'm also pretty poor now, so I don't have much money to give out. Wouldn't have enough money for an escort if I wanted it. lol

I know exactly how that feels. Ironically, when I came across money, I still haven't used any escort. But when you are poor, it just rubs it in further, especially if you can't get laid, when you don't even have the option to pay for it. If you have some money, and you can't get laid, at least you know there is always that last resort in the back of your mind...or if you just want to get with a hot babe for fun.

Even if someone were to give you the money for that, it would probably be hard to actually go ahead and do that since you may need that money for yourself. I've been where you were for about a few years and it sucks.

What also sucks is they make an obscene amount of money and to add insult to injury, if you get a bad SP, then you've just parted with what little money you have for nothing.

So, why would that come up in a discussion about a girl driving over? Even if you don't get laid, wouldn't you not enjoy her company?

 

[acerazor1]

Perfect time to employ ****y funny! 'I don't mind paying for your gas, however if I did, I'd have to pay for all the women who want to see me's gas & shell just don't have the fuel tanks to accommodate'.

Ohhh & please don't pay for her gas, would she do that for you?

 

[LuisGarcia10]

A couple years back I was dating a girl that lived about 60 miles away and she used to come to mine every weekend, and after a while I paid towards her petrol, not all of it, think I paid about half. But to be fair, she made te effort to drive 60 miles every weekend, if it wasn't for my job id have gone to see her half the time, which would be the equivalent of paying half her petrol roughly, Sony had no problem giving that money to her, I think that's fair, especially as at the time I didn't have a car so she drove me everywhere etc.
At the end of the day questions like this are very broad. You haw to assess the specific situation and think, is this reasonable? Or is she taking advantage of me? The girl I was dating would have come anyway, even if I didn't pay her petrol, but I just felt it was fair, seeing as she was making all the effort and picking me up from work etc. if the girl will only come to see you if you'll pay her petrol, then that's a different situation.
And if this is a girl you've never met before, then absolutely no way would I pay her gas, there's every chance that she would just keep the money and not turn up!