"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it natural for a bachelor to take it easier in life?

MatureDJ

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I was reading a recent thread that discussed the famous "rat utopia" experiment, and it got me thinking about how in the experiment the bachelor rats that basically went MGTOW (or would it be RGTOW, LOL) and had determined that the social situation was such that it wasn't worth getting into the mating game, and became the "beautiful ones" because all they did all day was clean themselves (i.e., by licking, which is their behavior for cleaning). It seems that - whether through choice or as imposed on them - bachelor men that get into that situation, they spend their time "cleaning" themselves by devoting their excess economic output into savings instead of supporting a family, thereby building up a retirement nest egg at a much higher rate than their family men cohort, and then are able to satisfactorily live off a much lower nest egg (i.e., because of the much lower demands on financial resources), so they retire (or still work, but a much more leisurely pace, or a in a field that has less renumeration, but is more enjoyable, etc.) at a much earlier age. And I suppose that this could also apply to a married man that has the atypical wife that feels the same way - as opposed to nagging him to make more money even though they really don't need it - whether childless or not (although the latter case would still have some resources devoted to supporting the children, just not as much as in the typical case).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Who Dares Win

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This is the thread for those who missed it http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-rat-colony.248369/

Regarding your point, you're correct and lets not forget that they were the "beautiful ones" not only because of the cleaning but also because not being involved in violence allowed them to stay unharmed, no blood or scars either.

So not only they had more time to care about themselves but they also had much less sh1t to deal with.

They basically dropped any involvment with females which on the other side were showing aggressive behaviour overall, at that point even alpha males dropped the protection of the females and left them.

In that experiment apparently the mgtow (mices going their own way) came up in a better conditions than females and other submales.
 
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