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Is it me, or are good looking guys aholes to average guys?

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A Bit about me, I'm a tall confident, average looking guy, but with a good athletic body. I notice, the other day I went out with my fiance and her friends, we were around 5 guys and 5 girls. I noticed that probably all the guys were better looking than me. This doesn't bother me, what bothers me is that it seems that with the guys they have this good looking bros clique going on. So it's like, if you're not as good looking as us, then we're not gonna give you any face. I noticed this, when I tried to break the ice with a couple of guys who were buddies, but they didn't seem to want to talk to me.

I've noticed this a lot with the good looking guys throughout my life, and find it kind of odd. There was a time, when I had some good looking buddies, who I'd play cards with, but they never asked me to go clubbing with them.

Anyhow, one of the guys was trying to be a smart ass with me, but I quickly put him in his place.

So am I reading too much into this? or is it something that actually happens?
 

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They perceive themselves to be somewhat cooler than them. If it's based purely on looks they might be homos.
 
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Well usually the good looking guys do have strong personalities, so it is possible that they think they're cooler, stronger than the average guys. Anyhow I always thought this is the kind of crap which happens with girls and how they treat each other, I thought the guys might be above this type of thing, but it seems most of them are like that.

Even my fiance's cousin (good looking dude) had a thing for her, but she didn't want anything to do with him, and he looks at me like, how the hell did this guy get her?
 
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Raven80 said:
So am I reading too much into this? or is it something that actually happens?
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I think you're reading too much into it.

You're taking an experience with a small group of guys and using that to make a generalization about an entire group.

I'm a good looking guy. So are my friends. And I'm pretty sure if you tried to break the ice with us, you'd have been treated like a regular, cool guy.
 
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I'm honestly not sure. In my group of friends, I'm usually one of the best-looking ones and when I go to the club and break the ice with some of the other god-looking guys with no problem. I guess it depends on the guys.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
I think you're reading too much into it.

You're taking an experience with a small group of guys and using that to make a generalization about an entire group.

I'm a good looking guy. So are my friends. And I'm pretty sure if you tried to break the ice with us, you'd have been treated like a regular, cool guy.
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It has nothing to do with the guys, it's the clique that compells them to act like a-holes to any other guy outside of their clique.

From personal experience with an aquaintance, the good looking guys acted like a-holes to him not because he looked average but rather because he has severe issues with his personality
 
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It mainly has to do with already being inside of a group. Even people in ugly groups will be aholes to their acquaintances. Its that the other people are in their own little worlds and don't want to be bothered. Meet any of them individually in isolation and they will chat with you like you want.

Rules of DJ-ing apply both to men and women, not exclusively. Hence why DJism is more of a life style than anything. It really is a way of life and most techniques can be used on anybody :)

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