"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is it lame to ask a girl if she has single friends

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so i was after this girl but it turns out she has bf so i backed off. we texted a little. would it be lame to ask her if she has any single friends?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do not do this. If you find out she does have hot friends (somehow) then they are obviously fair game because she turned you down.

Do you have mutual friends or did you just meet her?
 
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It all depends on your mindset bro. If she perceives you as a good catch them of.course she should be willing to introduce you. She has a bf already so why not? Especially if she's hot. Hot chicks often have hot friends. If you haven't really established good rapport with her then I might say forget it though... Might be kinda weird. If you showed heavy interest in her already ya might want to forget it also. That could be weird too.

If you do, just keep it fun, don't be serious. If you say it in person, (reccomended!) Then say it with a grin! If you text it, I'd say something more along the lines of "so what's up then, you don't have any single friends? ;)" over "do you have any single friends?"

Just my two cents. Overwelmingly though my response would be... Well why not?
 
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No, man, it reeks of desperation and you are giving her power. See if you can get into her social circle (never a bad idea in general) and see what chicks are floatin around in her world. This of course needs to happen naturally over the course of months, so be patient. Be indifferent about getting laid whether it's today or in 6 months, so what? Tis about all you can do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Put yourself in her shoes for a second..."he just tried to get with me and now asks if I have friends?" Definitely lame.
 
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If you are decent friends sometimes they will introduce you, but its still up to you to do the work.You'd be surprised how many girls want to play matchmaker.
 
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unfortuneately it is, it would be good if it wasn't, that way i can find out if a girl is single before hitting on her
 
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Seems like I'm going to be the black sheep here.. I don't find it lame. Of course, it all depends on you, your personality, game, and the women's perception of you. I've had a few lady friends that used to hook me up with pvssy all the time. It was by no means quality (cute girls, just a little crazy), but still pvssy. I fvcked and became really good friends with a stripper who knew a lot of slvtty friends. I would invite her everywhere with me as social proof and told her to bring her friends and she would always deliver. In return I would invite my coolest friends. We all had a mutual understanding that we're going to have fun, not get too serious, and no one would get hurt. It worked, for awhile.

Sometimes ex-gfs can be useful for hooking you up with new tail as well. I know this goes against mostly everyone's ideology, but as long as you keep your emotions in check, it's possible to break up and still be friends. This advice is more or less for kids in high school, who are generally forced to see their ex's face everyday anyway. This would sometimes work for me.

Also, if your best buddy is dating a chick and you are constantly the third wheel all the time, you damn well better ask your buddy's chick for a blind date. You're doing EVERYONE a favor.

I think if you already have a reputation as a player, then asking seems anything but a big deal. But if you haven't developed your game, and people still wonder if you're a virgin or not.. then completely ignore everything I've just stated.

-Scars
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No, don't ever ask. If she has any intention of hooking you up she'll do it on her own initiative. The better she knows you and understands your taste in women the more likely it will happen.

However this will only happen if she doesn't intend to turn you into an orbiter. As such it should be rather obvious early on if there is a chance or not.
 
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O.P If the chick thought you were a "great catch" she would've already offered you to meet her single friends. IF and ONLY IF she had a serious boyfriend otherwise she would immediately have taken you for herself before doing so. (Most likely the friend chicks introduce you to is always the one you don't want anyway.)

YOU asking her to introduce you to her friends is pretty much setting you up to be friendzoned by the group as the desperate dude.

Don't ask. If you meet the rest of them go for it on your own WITHOUT permission.
 
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