You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Now you sound like you're being mean spirited,lol. I don't need women friends to have interesting convos. It's an added bonus when a woman can have a good convo, it's helps me see the world from a different POV as well as a similar one. So, what would Tom Leykis say? That I'm trying to screw a girl by pretending to be interested in her conversation. I do have guy friends and I prefer them over women (they are more dependable and I feel freer with them)verysuave said:
After reading this post you made. I shake my head at you because it seems that with someone like you a womann is only or mostly good for sex. I've had female and have female friends I do enjoy talking with for extended periods of times (this doesn't happen frequently) So, when it happens it's like a high because such women are rare. No, the girl wasn't *****ing about something. I've only lived in US for 8 yrs and when I'm talking to a certain American girl and she's giving me info on girls, medical stuff and how the system here works. It's nice. Currently I have 3 plates (of which I'm F'ing 2 of them) of the 2 I'm Fing one has a great sense of humor and cracks me up which is rare in girls. The other who I F more is actually boring (doesn't initiate anything and seems to be a "yes" woman) This is starting to bore me and I'm even thinking of letting her go. As far as guys go. I have a blast playing soccer talking thrash to the guys and it's all in good humor and I have my close guy friends that we talk about stuff indepth for extended amounts of time. Sorry, maybe I can't relate to you Verysuave, lol.verysuave said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
