You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Now you sound like you're being mean spirited,lol. I don't need women friends to have interesting convos. It's an added bonus when a woman can have a good convo, it's helps me see the world from a different POV as well as a similar one. So, what would Tom Leykis say? That I'm trying to screw a girl by pretending to be interested in her conversation. I do have guy friends and I prefer them over women (they are more dependable and I feel freer with them)verysuave said:
After reading this post you made. I shake my head at you because it seems that with someone like you a womann is only or mostly good for sex. I've had female and have female friends I do enjoy talking with for extended periods of times (this doesn't happen frequently) So, when it happens it's like a high because such women are rare. No, the girl wasn't *****ing about something. I've only lived in US for 8 yrs and when I'm talking to a certain American girl and she's giving me info on girls, medical stuff and how the system here works. It's nice. Currently I have 3 plates (of which I'm F'ing 2 of them) of the 2 I'm Fing one has a great sense of humor and cracks me up which is rare in girls. The other who I F more is actually boring (doesn't initiate anything and seems to be a "yes" woman) This is starting to bore me and I'm even thinking of letting her go. As far as guys go. I have a blast playing soccer talking thrash to the guys and it's all in good humor and I have my close guy friends that we talk about stuff indepth for extended amounts of time. Sorry, maybe I can't relate to you Verysuave, lol.verysuave said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
