Is it impossible to keep an attractive girl happy forever in LTR

[GeoMan]

That have so many options and as soon as the relationship isn't in the honeymoon stage they'll start acting up and jump boats. You can't threat them with too much love and attention cause they'll start pulling away but you can't show too little or they start acting up. Basically you have to be the best thing they can get or they can easily leave.

 

[resilient]

In a healthy scenario, this attractive woman will be with you because she likes you for you are and not be focusing on some fantasy that she might think an ideal partner would be. She should sincerely like you for who you are and understand that life will have it's challenges. It's up to her integrity to stand by you during a particular difficult season if she's committed to staying in the LTR for the long haul. As long as you're relatively financially stable, decent shape, have passions and interests outside the relationship as well as friends that aren't just mutual friends of the couple, good listener and responsible, etc. then I think a successful LTR is possible.

If the woman's unhappy with herself or a past childhood/abuse issue lingers then that should be on her to fix herself by talking to her girlfriends, therapist, lose weight (if she's over weight obviously), find a passion that adds back to her self esteem like volunteering her time with a community event, church, a friend in need. A motivational book, whatever it takes to get her out of a funk. She shouldn't try to reframe her unhappiness solely on you, that's not accurate if you're making the right consistent moves as a DJ.

Unless you're royally screwing up as a man, she can't blame you for getting "bored" or feeling "unhappy." Hopefully, she's mature and smart enough to know that another guy or fleeting temptation won't fix what's going on within her or turning to another vice like addictions be that alcohol, social media, drugs, compulsive shopping, video games or whatever unhealthy coping outlet. You'll still have to date her and surprise her time to time romantically to get her interest level engaged, but again... I don't think it's impossible. The right woman for you will want to take care of herself to keep you engaged and interested in her.

So continue being the best DJ you can be and don't get hung up on over pleasing her, if she requires uber pleasing beyond your willingness to invest in the LTR, move on. You'll save yourself the heartache when she begins to look for the grass that's greener.

 

[SgtSplacker]

A girl with many options needs to constantly be kept on her toes. Her number of options needs to directly correlate with the number of options she thinks you have. She can never be allowed to feel like your relationship is secure and not going anywhere. Some girls might relax and be cool with things. But if she's not doing that your dread game never ends.

 

[Barclays]

Of course it's not impossible....most girls want to get married at some stage to fit into convention and social norm as they get older. You just need to make sure you keep her attracted as she has options and won't settle if she thinks she can get better.

 

[El Payaso]

Wrong. A woman should be keeping YOU happy in a relationship. The moment you step outside of that frame, you've lost.

 

[glass half full]

I think men should come up with shyt tests of our own. If they fail, send them packing.

Sometimes I wonder if we take the wrong perspective early on.

 

[HoneyHitter]

GeoMan, girls don't stay attractive forever.