Is it ever justifiable to cheat?

[Konada]

Well, I'm not married but I want to hear out what you guys think about this. I'm pretty much sure my dad is having an affair behind my mom's back though I do not entirely blame him for it.

Here's the situation:

1. Pretty sure my dad had no sex for a very long time (5 years ++)
2. Comes home to a yelling woman.
3. Wakes up in the morning to a yelling woman.
4. Family outings usually have some sort of arguement between them/ me vs mom.
5. She nitpicks the littlest of things we do (when we dont follow her way)

Honestly she started acting like that a few years ago, probably nearing menopause. For me, I'd sure as hell not getting married to a woman if I have to deal with this everyday. For one, my dad actually helped her secure a 15k/month job after her 6 month jobless stint and I don't sense any sort of appreciation for him at all.

I'm pretty confused right now. I have my sis shaming me for saying my dad has reasons to cheat (not that I really care). On the other hand, I feel even though he has his reasons it is still unfair to be doing this to my mom and instead break it off cleanly before starting with another relationship.

Is it ever justifiable for a married man to cheat and break his family?

 

[Epimanes]

I say no. We are all wired for affairs and there is no excuse for them but there is always a reason. But if we persue them they are more trouble than they are worth in the long run. If you don't get caught and have no morals.. Fine .. All the power to ya, but if you get caught there is much fall out and heart ache and family upheave. Affairs thrive on secrecy. They work because they are not with eachother full time Paying bills together, child minding, taking care of the home. Its easy to have a secret affair because they meet nEeds for intimate convo by complaining about ther spouses or current relationship partner while they are not there to defend their side. Once the secrecy is over (getting caught) it doesnt look so pretty anymore. You could even kill your relationship partner with std's. To some the risk is not worth it. To others they live in the moment and only see their own unmet needs and don't care how anyone else feels but themselves. Its a selfish act really .. Especially if there is children involved. Ask yourself would you like to be cheated on? I bet no.. No matter the scenerio.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Konada,

Breaking up a family is a huge, huge decision with ramifications for many people. No one walks away uninjured.

It sounds like your mother has put your father into a no win situation. He's a man and he needs love, respect, and sex. Try not to be too hard on him for doing what he needs to do.

I wish you and your family the best.

-Augustus-

 

[Bible_Belt]

I have learned about relationships that #1, they all have conflict, and #2, it is never entirely the fault of just one side. Blame is always a two-way street.

 

[theprof]

Did you ever think maybe your mom is unhappy and acts the way she does because she knows the old man is a cheater?