Is it even worth it to compliment women?

[SeymourCake]

It seems that creeps are the one that give compliments.

Real men vibe with the women without the need to give her compliments.

Do you agree?

 

[Cremasta]

No, sorry, don't agree with this one.

It's all in the delivery.

The best compliments always have a small knockdown hidden in there... if she's smart enough to pick up on it. If she does, its a bit of a conversation starter. Something like:

"You look really nice today", or
"Wow! You've really gone to a lot of effort!"

Ok, so mine are average, but you get the idea.

 

[SeymourCake]

No, sorry, don't agree with this one.

It's all in the delivery.

The best compliments always have a small knockdown hidden in there... if she's smart enough to pick up on it. If she does, its a bit of a conversation starter. Something like:

"You look really nice today", or
"Wow! You've really gone to a lot of effort!"

Ok, so mine are average, but you get the idea.

I think it's a bit different in the US than it is in Australia.

 

[TheException]

Compliments are good for rapport(and necessary) but ONLY with preceeding attraction. If the girl isnt attracted to you, they wont do sh1t.(in fact harm you). For an example, one of the plates im seeing, ill say something like "You just look so fukin sexy today" or "god, you were amazing(after busting my load)....then I get up out of bed.

Dont overdo the "romantic"/gay stuff. Small doses and very rarely...still it should be done.

 

[Uncharted]

I almost never give compliments based on appearance. For one of my plates I just said something like "oh you look tan". I usually compliment when they tell me something of value, like they are close with their families ("always good to find a girl that has good values") and sh1t like that. Let her earn them. Then again if she took some time to really get put together you can give her a small compliment, but don't say she looks pretty, say something like "you look great in that dress".

 

[HalfAddict]

I rarely complement... It is something I have never really done because every time I hear a guy complement a woman it almost makes me puke in my mouth....usually it's some chode on Facebook though....

I actually made a girl not want to see me anymore because she kept asking for complements and I kinda just made smart assed comments.

I would be interested in learning some proper ways to complement a woman without coming off as a total groveling douchelord though...soooooo if you have some tips this would be a great place to leave them.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Any man who lets a woman's perception of him dictate his behavior is an AFC.

A man should do whatever he wants. Trying to "behave yourself" before you're even in a relationship with a woman makes you p*ssy whipped by a woman you're not even f*cking :crackup: :crackup:

If you WANT to compilment a woman.. then do it. If you don't want to.. then don't. Simple as that.

This is how I operate. Some women like it.. some get creeped out. I don't give a sh!t either way and neither should you.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Any man who lets a woman's perception of him dictate his behavior is an AFC.

A man should do whatever he wants. Trying to "behave yourself" before you're even in a relationship with a woman makes you p*ssy whipped by a woman you're not even f*cking :crackup: :crackup:

If you WANT to compilment a woman.. then do it. If you don't want to.. then don't. Simple as that.

This is how I operate. Some women like it.. some get creeped out. I don't give a sh!t either way and neither should you.

Exactly!

Too many guys here take everything they read on the site as absolute rules to never break.

Ironically, the whole purpose of this site is to make you a better man so you can do and say whatever the hell you want, when you want. It should never be about the woman and what she thinks, it should be about you and what you want to do.






PIMP

 

[LiveFreeX]

I compliment women when I see something worthy of a compliment. The creepy guys compliment is just nice guy behavior.

"You are so pretty!"

"You are an angel!"

"You have the most beautiful eyes!"

Are all throw away compliments.

"Damn, you have raised your children right, 5 stars!"

"Jesus dude, you are an excellent teacher/driver/pilot".

"Wow you got some skill, can you teach me?"

Are compliments about something the person has done well and encouragements to continue to do it better. Complimenting on looks or voice is stupid because the person was born with that... The best things to compliment on are things people have worked hard for. By the way, complimenting is a great way to show gratitude to someone for something they have done for you. "Hey thanks alot for doing the laundry wife, you did a great job!" or "Dinner was actually pretty good tonight, I'm surprised!".

My brother would always compliment my mother's cooking even when it was nasty. Eventually she would expect his compliments but would defer to me for the TRUTH because I would usually tell her like it was... when it was good, my mother knew it was really good.

When people hate you because you don't make them feel good all the time, they will start to try to meet your standards. Funny enough I have an example made from a previous post. I was having trouble with an office sloar who was a new arrival and all the guys in the office were bowing down to her. I told her point blank that I didn't like her and she could take all of her ideals and bs and stick them where the sun doesn't shine. Well she has her orbiters who all compliment her non-stop but now she looks to me for approval and when I give it to her she walks around the office beaming... when I don't she now actually listens.

Think about it like SIMON from "AMERICAN IDOL", he was the meanest, tell it like it is, jerk you'd ever seen. Everyone hated him but if HE gave someone HIS approval then that person would fall to their knees crying and the audience would generally agree that the person was a worthy singer.

So compliment on things that are worth compliments, be true to yourself and others will look to you for approval.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Here is the executive summary guys:

1) Complimenting a girl is "hot" if she finds you attractive. Just don't overdo it because it becomes lame.

2) Complimenting a girl is only "creepy" if she's not attracted to you.

 

[handle]

If I genuinely like some piece of jewelry she's wearing or whatever, I'll compliment her on it. If she does something impressive I'll say I'm impressed. The same applies for my guy friends... If you like something, say so.

I don't do any of that "your eyes are beautiful" bs. What does that even mean? I have a friend who tries that stuff, he comes across as a complete idiot