"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is it better to show a girl your interest, or put it on hold till the right moment?

BannedGod

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I'll explain the title, I didn't really know how to verbalize it. Let's say I pulled a move on one of the girls (in bold simply so I don't hear the answer "spin more plates") I'm pursuing from one of my social circle, it didn't give anything though. However, I'm not going to abandon this option right away.

Now what I was wondering is, should I attempt to pull a move again after a few months to show I still hold interest in her, or wait to see if her interest in me spikes up (if it ever happens) and then go for it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Duracell_Bunny

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BannedGod said:
...should I attempt to pull a move again after a few months to show I still hold interest in her, or wait to see if her interest in me spikes up (if it ever happens) and then go for it?
You should display (non-verbally) interest from the get go while she has interest in you! Thats the time to go in for the kill. If you have the chance contact her now with some random fluff (as she is within your circle) then inviite her out one on one.

Waiting is a bad idea, what is the reason for waiting a few months? By that time she would have forgotten about you or consider you a friend.

There's even the possibily she will be sucking some guys **** within your social circle when you next see her.
 

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Duracell_Bunny said:
You should display (non-verbally) interest from the get go while she has interest in you!
I've been having a problem with this...Can you elaborate?
 

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MyTeamSupreme said:
I've been having a problem with this...Can you elaborate?
Strong eye contact, flirting/teasing, touching, closeness, asking her out, ect..
 

Chickfight

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Come on, even a monkey doesn't make the same mistake twice. Move on, learn from your experience. Ironically, doing this has the highest chance of increasing her interest above anything else.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This thread reeks of AFCness, you want to know whether you should take ACTION or wait for the RIGHT moment. Duh, take action and get rejected if you fail and if you pass you get the girl. Fail and you will stop wasting your mental resources strategizing tactics to increase her buying temperature and get it over with and if you get the girl you won't be wasting time making threads like these cause you'll be too busy railing her.

Stop wasting your time thinking about A girl when there's thousands in your area code who would just love to meet a guy like you. Get to know her, flirt, escalate and make her give you an answer. Not verbally of course but if she agrees to your escalation then she likes you if not, there are plenty more battles to be won!

Waiting is a tactic women use, they see someone they like they just sit there uselessly and hope he approaches or they get within his proximity and hope the dude has a clue. They may never get what they want, they may only have the option of choosing from what's available even if the choices are crap. A man takes action and goes after what he wants, after what he believes he deserves. Don't wait around hoping things will work out and the stars will align and all that romance bull. Make sh*t happen
 
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